You ever just feel like giving up?

Cause I definitely do sometimes. I feel horrible for spending my parents money on tanks that fail and false information and then they have to feel the heartbreak of loosing a tank with me.

I’m honestly scared to attempt stocking this tank because when we cleaned it it cracked. It’s not a big crack and you can’t feel it, but it’s there, and my past experiences with tanks make me think it destined to shatter in the middle of the night, kill our fish, and then my parents get to spend more money on replacing our hardwood floors and have to deal with even more heartbreak.

I know that’s a pretty low chance (it’s been operating without issue for months), but anyone else with any anxiety disorder knows how real the fear is. I just don’t think any of us could stand to loose another tank this soon.

 

Well, if your so nervous that it'll break, then I'd replace it. After my 55g shattered, I have decided to only buy new tanks, it's safer that way. If you feel it might, then it would save your parents a lot of money and heartbreak to just get a new one from the start.



And yes, through this hobby I have felt so many times when I've wanted to give up and throw in the towel. After my 55g cracked, after all my 1st set of 20 lemon tetras died, and the second set of 20 (They die regardless of where I get them, just don't like my water, though once they get used to it, they will thrive), a few water changes with my stepdad and step brother berating me about spilling drips of water (Very stressful), and a few other times.

But, I'm glad I didn't give up, and if you go with the info given on here, 9/10 it will be correct and you will have a successful, thriving tank.

 

Yes, this happens to me. Because of my misinformation, my parents needed to use their money to buy a bigger tank. Also, my betta eats the sinking wafers, so I'm scared of constipation. I feel like it's all my fault. Sometimes, I regret getting this fish, because it affects this fish (in a bad way). And plz no rude comments about this, but when I was younger, I thought a fish's life is actually short, and kinda worthless, but when I actually got it as a pet and it died, I felt sorry for saying that when I was younger.

But you know, we all make mistakes and we have regrets, that's how we learn. Also, we don't know what we thought/did for fishes if we didn't have the experience of us having a pet fish. My fish makes me brighten up my day, and it makes me smile everyday, so I couldnt give up. Heres a quote from Attack on titan, Armin
"Everyone can make a choice after they have learned what it will result in. It is so easy to say we should have done it this way afterwards. But you can’t know what your choice will result in before actually choosing."

 

Sorry your having a rough time! Its really nice that you care about spending your parents money. If you want to make your own money maybe you could get a job or an allowance? Making your own money will give you more responsibility, you will be in control of spending and saving, all that fun stuff. Maybe you can paid for doing a few chores around the house? There are actually quite few ways, If you are interested in making money.

If your having problem with your tank and your afraid of it breaking I would definitely get a new one. I've had one of my 55g tanks break the water spilled everywhere.... onto the hardwood floor... they were very upset, long story.

It would get hard but I never really wanted to give up, because fish keeping seemed to be the only thing that was keeping me going at times. It can be hard but its a really fun hobby too. I understand the trouble though you are doing the best you can!

 

Cause I definitely do sometimes. I feel horrible for spending my parents money on tanks that fail and false information and then they have to feel the heartbreak of loosing a tank with me.

I’m honestly scared to attempt stocking this tank because when we cleaned it it cracked. It’s not a big crack and you can’t feel it, but it’s there, and my past experiences with tanks make me think it destined to shatter in the middle of the night, kill our fish, and then my parents get to spend more money on replacing our hardwood floors and have to deal with even more heartbreak.

I know that’s a pretty low chance (it’s been operating without issue for months), but anyone else with any anxiety disorder knows how real the fear is. I just don’t think any of us could stand to loose another tank this soon.

U sound like u worry wayyyyy too much. U gotta relax. The chances of that aquarium breaking is pretty small... and if ur so worried about spending ur parents money, why dont u just save up for ur own aquarium? Just a thought. Try considering it. Thx for reading!

 

It’s not a big crack and you can’t feel it, but it’s there, and my past experiences with tanks make me think it destined to shatter in the middle of the night, kill our fish, and then my parents get to spend more money on replacing our hardwood floors and have to deal with even more heartbreak.

I would definitely replace it.

when I was young, I did odd jobs and baby sitting until I got an actual job.
You can always pay them back once you have it saved up - if it is really bugging you.

And I understand anxiety - I worried all day Friday that I left my curling iron on and the house was going to burn down while at work. I came home, it was not on. The kicker was - I had not used it that day.

anxiety can be brutal. my unsolicited advise is: find I way to decompress & let it go. being on high alert 24/7 over stresses you.

 

U sound like u worry wayyyyy too much. U gotta relax. The chances of that aquarium breaking is pretty small... and if ur so worried about spending ur parents money, why dont u just save up for ur own aquarium? Just a thought. Try considering it. Thx for reading!

Though, if by just cleaning it, it cracked, I would replace it, it's not that much money comparatively in the long run.

 

Though, if by just cleaning it, it cracked, I would replace it, it's not that much money comparatively in the long run.

Ok

 

When I gave up in life, fishes and planted tank drew me in.
Fishes and tanks and pretty cheap in my country Singapore.

I splashed so much water but my parents never changed any flooring.
Watching my planted tank actually calms me down like meditating.