What Music Do You All Listen To When Your In A Rough Spot

First off I would like to say I have no real preference on a certain music genre. I suffer from PTSD, ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Severe Anxiety and Depression, and Manic Depressive Disorder. So with that being said I'm going out on a limb here letting you guys in on not only my scars but also seeing me just not as a fish keeper but as someone who struggles every single day I'm alive to keep going.
My childhood was filled with a series of truly unfortunate events, so a lot of times when I'm feeling down or even a little aggravated, my tanks are an awesome way to keep me busy. Sometimes, however, my tanks ehh will only take the edge off, I am also a lead bassist in a band(called NSN or Not So NoRmaL). I searched high and low all through my teenage years to find my niche of people to fit in with, this did prove to be a challenge and in the end I simply learned to be satisfied with my tanks, my music, and my own devices.
Now on to the meat of this "revealing" post: When my anger kicks in I tend to listen to bands like Slipknot, Marilyn Manson, Pantera, Falling in Reverse, Nazareth, Iron Maiden, but mostly Slipknot. Some might say this music is "satanic" or is a negative influence on people but I can tell you first hand that this band(Slipknot) has saved my existence as a living human being. In my opinion no one can judge something by how it sounds, now some of you might be thinking, "but Dave, its music and we can only hear the sound". Music goes deeper than that, simply judging music by sound is a good way to miss out on a lot of personal connections in your own lives. Moreover, what might sound angry on the surface, could simply be a cover to see who actually cares enough to see it for what it is. So now, what I ask of you is to both share some of your bands you listen to when your depressed or angry that calms you down. Please just hear me out, I know as much as the next guy that music can have not so good affects on those with maybe....... ehhh what's the word, I guess those with a not so good grasp on right and wrong. But if taken with a grain of salt, music can be as healing as that therapist visit, that pill, or even those Doctors.

Thank you all ahead of time
Dave98

P.S. head bang on you guys

 

Normally I listen to stuff like Maroon 5, Coldplay and OneRepublic. If I'm feeling particularly depressed though, I listen to Steely Dan.

I think if something resonates with you and helps you feel better you should listen to it instead of paying attention to what other people think you should like.

 

I do not care for most head-banging music.

But, I also find that the music one ends up loving the most, and often getting the most out of, is music that takes some effort to learn to like.

So I figure that a lot of the music I dislike may simply be music I have not put enough effort into, if you see what I mean. My dislike of it may simply be due to my ignorance of it, and inability to understand it at this time.

What music one is willing to put the required effort into, then, is an interesting subject, and might well provide interesting insights into human social experience, learning, behavior, tribalism, etc.

There is a lot to all of this. What types of music you end up liking probably says a lot about your experiences and social connections during various parts of your life. Once you're an old dude like me, it may be even harder to put forth the effort to try to learn new styles of music. I tend to like music I was exposed to when I was, say, younger than about the age of 30.

But that doesn't mean it isn't good to work at appreciating music and art that you don't currently "like". And it doesn't mean that I don't run across new music that I end up loving.

Anyhow, for me, I tend to enjoy a lot of different kinds of music. And very often, "good" (to me) music is very moving and must be therapeutic in various ways. There are many times when great music can bring tears to my eyes. What the heck that's all about, I don't know, but it's a pleasant and powerful experience.

Listening to music is interesting. What is it that makes it pleasant? Is it following a pattern that you already know? Is there some joy in already knowing some of the next patterns in the sequence, but maybe not all of them ? Like driving a familiar road or walking a familiar path, but seeing something new anyhow?

Beats me!

I like classical, jazz, bluegrass, 60s, 70s, 80s rock, Zappa, lots of movie scores, and all kinds of random stuff that just happened to sneak in there.

A lot of it may be connected to the context of when, where, and with whom I first heard something. Then again, a lot of it is stuff I've just run across when completely alone.

Heck, it's a complex subject. But I don't think you're alone in finding music to be helpful and good for you.

I can't say there's any particular music I turn to when I'm down. But I will say that what is often the most powerful for me are things like some of the Beethoven symphonies, or an album like Zappa's Waka/Jawaka.

 

Ill listen to pretty much anything except for pop music

 

Not even when i'm in a rough spot, this is all the time

 

I mainly listen to Retro Music. Mainly the 90's grunge like Pearl Jam and Nirvana . Also Toad the Wet Sprocket . I also like the Beatles, Steely Dan, Fleetwood Mac, Bee Gees and The Eraserheads .Whenever I feel like jumping around, I'd listen to some parodies by Bart Baker. Before I sleep, I'd listen to the pop music of today. In terms if specific songs I love that sorta only that song among the band's songs(retro)- Call Me by Blondie, Night to Remember by Shalamar , Africa by Toto, Crazy Love by Poco and signs by tesla
Basically any song keeps me happy(except these weird music vids -_-)

-Cacret, Dapper King with total dapper . I LOVE MY DOG AND BETTA lol

 

The Disco Biscuits
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I'm a Slipknot fan myself. And metallica, saliva, pantera, stuff like that. Slipknot is my favorite though. I have to listen to it everyday. And also, I play guitar, so I like listening to the guitar aspects of a song too. Nothing beats playing along to your favorite songs.

\m/(*_*)\m/

 

Were two different people that's for sure, but I suffer all those disorders too. I had it pretty bad actually and in the end I'd feel scared of the world. But the best I could do is either take one route or the other, my friends or alone. I chose to be alone which many weak people can't do, it was hard but time heals. It's the fact were in denial we CAN be happy, but we carry this stress like an ankle weight.

 

I once left about half a dozen CD's in the work truck and my supervisor saw them. He asked who they all belonged to because there were so many genres represented he thought they couldn't belong to the same person. I told him they were mine and what I listened to depended on the mood I was in. His response, "you must have a lot of moods"

I seem to recall that the selection at the time included Metallica, The Cars, Queen, Loreena McKennit, some sort of classical, and probably something like modern pop

 

I once left about half a dozen CD's in the work truck and my supervisor saw them. He asked who they all belonged to because there were so many genres represented he thought they couldn't belong to the same person. I told him they were mine and what I listened to depended on the mood I was in. His response, "you must have a lot of moods"

I seem to recall that the selection at the time included Metallica, The Cars, Queen, Loreena McKennit, some sort of classical, and probably something like modern pop

That's hilarious! Aha

 

If you have a love of nature I invite your to tune into Smooth Riviera. We use this music stream in our spa environment and our clients young and old love it. This is not pop, head bangers or metal, but some of the most well renowned music blended with the sounds of nature. It also includes music that induces positive notions and subliminal harmonies.

Music is a source of expression and ingestion, meaning it sets the mood in multiple ways. I have a great deal of experience dealing with depression, addictions, co-dependencies and self-destructive aliments. In the 15 years + of my involvement with this music has been key to healing and release. No matter the style, music can uplift us or alter us to a negative state. When music is aggressive in impacts peoples directly and indirectly. When music is harmonious and synergistic it captivates us taking us away from our stress, sorrows and so much more.

 

If you have a love of nature I invite your to tune into Smooth Riviera. We use this music stream in our spa environment and our clients young and old love it. This is not pop, head bangers or metal, but some of the most well renowned music blended with the sounds of nature. It also includes music that induces positive notions and subliminal harmonies.

Music is a source of expression and ingestion, meaning it sets the mood in multiple ways. I have a great deal of experience dealing with depression, addictions, co-dependencies and self-destructive aliments. In the 15 years + of my involvement with this music has been key to healing and release. No matter the style, music can uplift us or alter us to a negative state. When music is aggressive in impacts peoples directly and indirectly. When music is harmonious and synergistic it captivates us taking us away from our stress, sorrows and so much more.

Believe it or not, heavy metal is relaxing to me. Sometimes life is stressful, and the only thing that feels right is my preferred music genre.

 

Believe it or not, heavy metal is relaxing to me. Sometimes life is stressful, and the only thing that feels right is my preferred music genre.

I totally get that heavy metal soothes my anger and lets me express it in a way that I'm not hurting anyone including myself.

 

Disclosure in return: I have Non-Verbal Learning Disorder although they now suspect Aspergers was a potential alternative diagnosis too but it really doesn't matter at this point since I'm still me either way, I also have ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, severe/frequent/chronic migraines, 3 cracks in my shoulder blade and damage to my back due to a crash I was in years ago that will never fully heal and so cause chronic pain, peripheral neuralgia that causes chronic pain, Plantar Fasciitis that also causes severe pain during a flare, and am raising my 8 year old son who has a high-functioning form of autism, ADHD, severe frequent anxiety attacks we are in the process of trying to get diagnosed so he can get treated, and I suspect depression as well.

When I was younger, when frustrated, angry or depressed especially, I listened to things like Nirvana (almost constantly) and Metallica (less frequently but still in the rotation) or similar, but as I got older and some of my own chronic conditions have worsened with age, I have had to give up most of the music genres that would lead to either head banging or mosh pits because I found the harsher sounds of those styles did things like exacerbate the severe chronic migraines I got. I was already barely functional most days they hit, I didn't need anything that made them worse but I will still slip a little Nirvana in among other songs when I have my music on random since that had always been one of my favorites back then.

Like others have said, my music tastes are a very wide range and really depend on what mood I am in. I could have anything from alternative bands like Nirvana, 3 Doors Down, Green Day, to punk rock like Dropkick Murphies and Flogging Mollies, to country and even the occasional bluegrass, although I am super picky about what in those cases, and even have been known to sing along to soundtracks from musicals or other stuff in my car while I commute or at work on weekends when nobody is there to hear me but the birds and the guinea pigs.

As many have said, music does have a very therapeutic aspect to it and has even been proven to open the lungs, ease construction on airways, reduce blood pressure, and reduce anxiety when singing while still stimulating the brain. I was in choir for years when I was a kid and while I always enjoyed it, I suspect partial hearing damage during that crash killed my ability to sing on key so my instances of singing in front of another are few and far between now. Even without singing (and I mean really opening up and putting your heart into it like you are performing on Broadway) music is still highly therapeutic. I hope this helps.

 

waterlilykarI that's really inspirational...... :')

 

waterlilykarI that's really inspirational...... :')

Thank you. It always helps to hear from someone also going through a struggle of their own that just "gets it." Even if the diagnoses are not the same and the path they're on may be very different also, it still helps to hear from others who understand and do not judge.

Right now, we are in a scramble to find a way to give my son an outlet like the music is for me, preferably multiple he can go to to find some peace and serenity in the midst of all this chaos. The fish are a big factor that do help both of us which is why he has both the 55 and the 10 gallon tanks and necessary equipment taking over almost one entire wall of his bedroom. We have also tried making a zen sand garden recently using mainly cheap aquarium decorations, tried actual gardening outside and sensory/tactile therapy using either the sand or the plants we chose since most of them are "touchy-feelly" as he calls them and have interesting or soothing textures like the fuzzy feeling mosses or the velvety feel of some of the succulents. Oddly enough, the tactile therapy that helped him most was holding the airline I am using to make a flexible bubble wall and the fizzy feeling of the bubbles coming out of the pinholes against his hands seemed to help so I guess it's the aquariums to the rescue all over again. While I am not trying to hijack toe thread with all of this, I do bring it up in the hope that you can see you are not alone. What you face on a daily basis and why may be different or it may not be so different after all, but I hope that seeing others dealing with similar can help you by knowing that you are not alone.

 

Music is a beautiful tool, a tool that is instrumental towards release or harboring...let me explain further.

Research has proven that certain frequencies in harmonics can be very healthy, yet on the other side, certain frequencies can also induce a progression of stress and yes, harbor anger and resentments.

I'm not trying to say don't listen to certain types of music, only want to bring awareness to our troubled minds and souls. We all fill up this garbage can of life until it starts to choke us inducing labored breathing, high blood pressure, depression, anxiety and the list goes on. We tend to hold onto the past never truly letting go until we come to a blockage, or should I say the 2x4 of self-infliction and despair.

To let go of the past is to find acceptance within the self, to welcome your day, the present moment and learn to start a newer day of the futures. To understand this is to look deep within, even the tinest little thing can become a trigger that takes to the positive, or the negative. The mind is a most powerful place, one that we can destroy that around and in us but it can also learn to accept and share the wisdom of our trials. Music can be this release as it can be the holder as with many things.

Those that suffer from physical afflictions induced by aggressive acts at times find themselves repeating the same patterns until they break the hold, meaning finding a path of self-healing...always remember one thing, it does not belong to you and you have the power to let go and move forward.

Let your mind be the release and not a sponge of despair. No one says it's easy, in time with practice, our patterns of self-destruction become our tools of understanding, an understanding that in turns helps another one step at a time.

 

I feel like I would be omitting something major if I didn't add this: for many, many years my biggest outlet has been to create. Probably even more than music, I will sketch, draw, paint, and have also taught informal lessons to others in high school on how to draw for therapeutic affect. These were not highly advanced artists I was teaching either or professionals in the field that already knew their chosen art but were wanting to make it be therapeutic - on the contrary, they were high school students with learning disabilities and emotional disabilities that had reached a level they could no longer cope with mainstream school, many highly intelligent but their disabilities were just too big of a hurdle to overcome on their own and especially when the mainstream school employees had little to no understanding of how to help someone like them, like you or like me and so they were the ones that fell farther and farther behind.

The most common answer I would get when I mention it to anyone, then or now, is "but I can't draw to save my life" or some variation of "I have absolutely zero artistic ability." It is not about skill level and even more so when the main (or only) aI'm in this is for the act of creating something - anything - to be therapeutic. The biggest hurdle is that inner voice we all have that stops us continually from step one by going "this is horrible, I'm wasting my time, this is never going to look like anything, this is garbage, why do I even bother?" And so on...

Once you silence that inner judgement, the rest becomes much, much easier. We are not aiming to be the next da Vinci, we are only aiming to create something - ANYTHING - and find peace in the process. Not everyone is going to be a world renowned artist obviously, but anyone can doodle, anyone can sketch, anyone can try. It doesn't even take expensive easels and fancy, high end supplies and in fact, if you or anyone else decides to try it based on what I have written here, I highly recommend NOT getting all that stuff until you know that you do get some joy, some peace, some calm or whatever else you are aiming to get from it and even then, wait until you know what medium you prefer. (IE. Don't go buy all the stuff to take up painting, only to realize you hate painting but enjoy sketching. It would be like buying the tank, all the equipment, substrate, foods and everything for a tank before you know if you want a salt or freshwater setup) I personally have always taught this using sketching as the medium but you are welcome to do otherwise if you choose to. The only real reason is because it didn't require the kids I was teaching to go out and buy all the stuff, they just needed a pencil and some paper or if they really wanted to, I would tell them to go to a bookstore like Barnes and Noble, or Michael's Crafts store, pick out a basic sketchbook (again the emphasis on basic) just to keep it all in one place.

The ZenTangle style of drawing is one that has been great for beginners since becoming popular recently because it allows people to feel like they aren't doing anything serious where it would risk putting that inner critic into overdrive (and it take a ton of practice to truly shut him up so don't feel bad if that doesn't go away right away, just at it) but the ZenTangle designs are involved enough and intricate enough to just lose yourself in it. It really doesn't matter too much what you draw exactly since some people feel the most benefit from sketching out some form of what's going on in their head and others get the most benefit from the opposite and need the escape of it for a little while then are much more able to face what they are dealing with with a calmer, more composed, clear head. It could also be a mix-and-match approach as the mood strikes and it will take some experimenting if you choose to, to figure out what works best for you.

For me when I draw it is like all other thoughts cease, like someone turned the volume down on the rest of the world and it is almost a meditative state for me. My heart rate slows, my breathing slows, my anxiety subsides, even if depression is too severe to get to a point of joy, I am calmed by it and more content when I have had the chance to draw for awhile. Even when I am so anxious my hands shake noticeably and not just their usual permenant fine tremor that I work hard to contain, I have had people point out to me that when I am sketching even my hands are steady.

For the record, when I am sketching my favorite music to further the ability to "tune out" on the world (if only for a little while) is Vitamin String Quartet and I highly recommend you look up their music. Someone played their version of Metallica's Enter Sandman for me and that's what got me hooked on them, but they do such a huge range of music that everyone and anyone can find versions of favorite songs (although it is slightly odd to hear VTQ's Beat It or Bohemian Rhapsody follow Enter Sandman since the genres are such opposites) Sorry for such a long post, there ended up being much more to say than I expected but I hope you or someone else can benefit from it to find the peace it seems we all struggle to find.

 

Yeah get what your saying Dadio there's certain music that I even get a bad vibe from. moreover some of the rougher music does bring on thoughts of hurting myself, and in my past was cutting and drugs to be able to cope with what happened. However some of that rough stuff does heighten my heart rate, heighten my blood pressure, and give me a rush of adrenaline.... but it feels good while the music is playing, its just temporary but its my "positive" addiction aside from fish
waterlilykarI I'm also a artist in both music as ive said above, and drawing/painting/sculpting but everyone says my art is so depressing but its really not in my opinion, its just a way I can express my heart and still breath its a way to cut the paper or canvas and no my arms and legs..... ill upload some doodles of my stuff to show you what I mean

 

Bodies by Sinner
Comatose by Skillet
Love Me Dead by Ludo
Dirge by Death in Vegas
We Didn't Start the Fire by Billy Joel
Vindicated by Dashboard Confessional
Over My head by The Fray
Smells like Teen Spirit by Nirvana

I love listening to Enya when I'm worked up. It's just so relaxing. Also the Tarzan soundtrack when I'm sad about my biological dad. The Tarzan soundtrack means so much to me.

 

I listen to Jessie Ware...
Love her voice.
Any one else know her?

 

waterlilykarI I'm also a artist in both music as ive said above, and drawing/painting/sculpting but everyone says my art is so depressing but its really not in my opinion, its just a way I can express my heart and still breath its a way to cut the paper or canvas and no my arms and legs..... ill upload some doodles of my stuff to show you what I mean

I fully understand. I have my share of those too. Many of them I either trashed long ago or moved them to my parents' house and hid them away over there for the ones I couldn't stand to just toss them so my son wouldn't grow up surrounded with that kind of ry until he was old enough to understand as well because many were "fairly dark" to say the least, but sometimes it's what got me through because all the anxiety and everything else in my head that was threatening to drown me was finally out of my head and down on paper. One day when one of the kids I babysat for as a teenager was dropped off way earlier than expected and I hadn't hidden away a particularly frightening piece I had been working on, I had to tell the kid that the paintbrush I used was magic, it turned the paints I used and canvas or board I painted it onto into a prison for the nightmares I had. I said that if I used that magic paintbrush to paint the nightmare, that one I painted could never escape and haunt my thoughts anymore because it was then trapped there forever.

She stopped being afraid of that painting after that and even asked a couple times if she could paint with my "magic" paintbrush when she came over after having a bad dream the night before but what I didn't expect to happen was that my parents would overhear my explanation and finally understood why I might be totally cheerful that night by dinnertime after working all afternoon on a "dark," "depressing," "scary" project they could only respond to with things like "maybe it's time to try seeing a professional again." They understood that even if it wasn't really a magic paintbrush, the thoughts were out and on paper or on canvas, not bouncing around my head and driving me mad.

 

I fully understand. I have my share of those too. Many of them I either trashed long ago or moved them to my parents' house and hid them away over there for the ones I couldn't stand to just toss them so my son wouldn't grow up surrounded with that kind of ry until he was old enough to understand as well because many were "fairly dark" to say the least, but sometimes it's what got me through because all the anxiety and everything else in my head that was threatening to drown me was finally out of my head and down on paper. One day when one of the kids I babysat for as a teenager was dropped off way earlier than expected and I hadn't hidden away a particularly frightening piece I had been working on, I had to tell the kid that the paintbrush I used was magic, it turned the paints I used and canvas or board I painted it onto into a prison for the nightmares I had. I said that if I used that magic paintbrush to paint the nightmare, that one I painted could never escape and haunt my thoughts anymore because it was then trapped there forever.

She stopped being afraid of that painting after that and even asked a couple times if she could paint with my "magic" paintbrush when she came over after having a bad dream the night before but what I didn't expect to happen was that my parents would overhear my explanation and finally understood why I might be totally cheerful that night by dinnertime after working all afternoon on a "dark," "depressing," "scary" project they could only respond to with things like "maybe it's time to try seeing a professional again." They understood that even if it wasn't really a magic paintbrush, the thoughts were out and on paper or on canvas, not bouncing around my head and driving me mad.

I never babysat, I mostly stayed to myself but when people did come over, they were horrified at my walls.... a few counselors actually dropped me as a client when they seen my case and heard my philosophy on life and why we are all here..... they almost put me away, for doing nothing at all... yes I had a few scars on my body from self infliction but most of it was the unheard of knowledge that I talked about and tossed around as if it were everyday knowledge, I'm not scared of the unknown. I embrace it.

and as someones signature says on here "I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute of it"

I love your philosophy of the paintbrush being an instrument of peace and however dark it may have appeared, it kept you going and didnt hinder you like the thoughts used to <3

 

Not really any type of mood but I enjoy Saving Abel's slower, lighter songs, country, and Christian music.

 

I think my top 10 go to songs when feeling like these...

Iced Earth - A Question of Heaven
Tarja Turunen - I Walk Alone
Sonata Arctica - Letters To Dana
Nevermore - Believe In Nothing
Leonard Cohen - Everybody Knows
Iced Earth - I Died For You
Nevermore - Sleeping Sun
Darkwell - Realm of Darkness
Guns N' Roses - November Rain
Megadeth - A Tout Le Monde