Trade Offs In Relationships Question

  1. Gypsy13

    Gypsy13 Well Known Member Member

    ok, I know I’m not the only one. (If so, I’m a fool).
    How many of you in relationships have to trade to get something you want?
    Example: neighbor abuses dog. I can’t stand it anymore. I take dog. Bathe, brush, feed, water, then they come get dog. I tell them since they don’t like him, let me keep. They say fine. Hubby says “But what do I get out of it?”. After a long negotiation, he gets a new Harley, I get a new fur ball. Btw, if your SO says buy me a mc and I’ll be happy and never ask for another thing, don’t fall for it. A mc is a money pit. Big time.
    So, this is the kind of guy I’m up against. I need to take this giant danio back to LFS. How do I get him to agree without spending money? And before you say what’s in your minds, we don’t go there anymore and I’ve had him for forty two years. :)

    Please share your trade offs so I know I’m not alone.
     
  2. david1978

    david1978 Fishlore VIP Member

    So you cant trade him in for 2 half his age? Lol.
     
  3. KimberlyG

    KimberlyG Fishlore VIP Member

    Yup! That's the trade I'd be making!
     


  4. OP
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    Gypsy13

    Gypsy13 Well Known Member Member

    He’s my lost puppy. What would I do without someone who needs me even though I haven’t got much to offer?
    One half...stop it! Putting evil thoughts in my head! Lol
     
  5. KimberlyG

    KimberlyG Fishlore VIP Member

    Haven't got much to offer? Poppycock! (Stronger words are frowned upon on this forum :yuck:) Those that think that way usually have the most to offer. You save lives...Doesn't matter if it's fish, dogs, or in your case, humans. You save lives!
     
  6. OP
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    Gypsy13

    Gypsy13 Well Known Member Member

    Don’t be making me cry now! :smug:
     


  7. scarface

    scarface Fishlore VIP Member

    Sorry, can’t help you there. I haven’t done trade-offs since I discovered “online-dating”. :emoji_innocent:
     
  8. yukondog

    yukondog Well Known Member Member

    Trade? You mean all these years I could have made a trade, she never told me that.:)
     
  9. Mike1995

    Mike1995 Well Known Member Member

    with my girlfriend.. She doesn't let me in a fish store alone. I always end up buying a fish or 10. So every once in awhile i bribe her with chocolate.. Yes chocolate. For some reason i get fool control of her mind when i use that word :p then i get to buy a fish.
     
  10. Rtessy

    Rtessy Well Known Member Member

    Sporting event tickets, or movie nights normally work.
    Edit: oh wait those are money... Well, movie night isn't always, just rewatch some favorites.
     
  11. SegiDream

    SegiDream Well Known Member Member

    Trading chores sometimes works if you're not looking to spend money. Or if there is something they have been wanting to do and you've not quite agreed to the idea up to this point...
     
  12. OP
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    Gypsy13

    Gypsy13 Well Known Member Member

    Boy is she lucky! Lol
     
  13. OP
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    Gypsy13

    Gypsy13 Well Known Member Member

    Did you say chocolate? :)
     
  14. Mike1995

    Mike1995 Well Known Member Member

    yep :p
     
  15. yukondog

    yukondog Well Known Member Member

    Truth is, I'm the lucky one, she saved me when I was in a very dark place in my life.
     
  16. OP
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    Gypsy13

    Gypsy13 Well Known Member Member

    What you need? Lol:joyful:
     
  17. CanadianFishFan

    CanadianFishFan Well Known Member Member

    Im not in a LOVE relationship but a family relation ship with my parents.
    "Can I have another betta?"
    "no..."
    " Its better then doing drugs"
    *Long thinking*
    *A new 10gallon tank appears in the corner of my room"
    I dont know if thats a proper trade off but its deal to my parents.
     
  18. emmysjj

    emmysjj Well Known Member Member

    Same @CanadianFishFan
    My mom is cool with my animals, for the most part. But I have to constantly use fishkeeping as a reminder that I could be obsessed with other things that my dad would not approve of. He gets a good daughter, I get some endlers lol
     
  19. Discus-Tang

    Discus-Tang Well Known Member Member

    My betta boyfriends (2 halfmoons) get frozen brine shrimp when they jump for pellets :p
     
  20. fishlover001

    fishlover001 Well Known Member Member

    I gotta try that one...