This year, and last year has been an absolute nightmare. Now I might lose my dad.

This year, and last year has been a nightmare for everyone. I’ve lost so many people; and so have many others.

Today, my worst fears have been lurking. My dad suffered two heart attacks, a mild, and a major one last night. They have him on a ventilator, and life support. Now his kidneys may be an issue, because of the heart wttafk

He’s in his 70s, and I’m in my early 20s, my siblings are even younger.

I can’t even stop shaking, I’ve been trying to keep it together, but every time I hear the doctors, it gets worse, even when they said he was “stable.”

He was too stubborn to go the hospital, and kept fighting us for a week. Our main doctor, shrugged it off, as if it was just gas.

I don’t have anyone to talk to, just my siblings (lost all my friends; including best) but we’re all shaken.

This year just keeps getting worst, and worst. It doesn’t get better, I’ve lost friends, I‘ve lost family. It just doesn’t end.

 

I'm sorry to hear this, I hope your dad gets better. In times like this, we just have to first trust God, have hope, and trust the doctors.

 

So very sorry, Bleu!!! And as you are older, your younger siblings will probably look to you for support, which is normal.

Take some time, breathe deep, and do that over and over whenever you feel the panic rising. You are not alone.

Will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!

 

Oh, Bleu, I'm so sorry. Sending virtual hugs, thoughts and prayers.
We're glad you felt you could come to your FL family.

 

Not really sure which was worse on me, when my dad had his heart attack or a few years later when he passed. Either way, none of it is very fun.

Things will get better, just gotta take some time and do whichever kind of grieving you need to do for awhile, then stand up, brush yourself off, and raise that chin and take on the world!

 

So sorry, these are the situations in life everyone dreads. Its not fun...but amazingly you will get through it even if you don't think you will. Thoughts and prayers for your dad and your family!

 

I’m praying for you guys! Things will get better don’t lose hope, we are all here for you.

 

So sorry to hear about your dad! Hoping and praying for the best. Hope you can be strong for your siblings who are surely just as scared or even more so than you! It's ok to be scared and worried. There is hope...there will be brighter days.

 

Sometimes it helps to talk to a stranger I have different reasons than you but the last few years have also been incredibly difficult for my family and I... there is no need to feel alone in that feel free to DM me if you feel like you need to chat. I work with difficult situations for a living.. although I can't offer that service online I can definitely be there as a human being listening to another human being!

 

Thank you guys for all the kind comments.

So far, no news of him. I don't know how any of this works - or, if this is a good or bad sign. But they have him sedated still, wanting him to rest, he had a keyhole procedure (?) and, still on the ventilator. Nurses, and team aren't saying much, I don't think there has been much big differences, but, they said he is breathing a bit better on his own (?). Though, still have the ventilator.

I don't know if tomorrow, or so they'll remove the ventilator, but even the doctor sounded finnicky, hours ago on the phone, like still unsure. I don't know what any of this mean, plus I think one of his arteries was blocked/blood clot?

 

I’d imagine you’ll find a lot of folks on this site that have been through what you’re experiencing.

After having been through it with both mom and dad, my best advice is to spend as much time as you possibly can with your dad. And the rest of your family.

God bless you, your dad and the rest of your family.

 

I’m so so sorry to read this and my heart is with you. I know how scary this all must feel. Keep taking deep breaths. Spend lots of time with your family...but also do what you need to do to stay healthy...whether that’s going for walks, listening to loud music, or just staring into your aquarium for hours. Sending so many good vibes across the miles to you.

 

Thank you guys for all the kind comments.

So far, no news of him. I don't know how any of this works - or, if this is a good or bad sign. But they have him sedated still, wanting him to rest, he had a keyhole procedure (?) and, still on the ventilator. Nurses, and team aren't saying much, I don't think there has been much big differences, but, they said he is breathing a bit better on his own (?). Though, still have the ventilator.

I don't know if tomorrow, or so they'll remove the ventilator, but even the doctor sounded finnicky, hours ago on the phone, like still unsure. I don't know what any of this mean, plus I think one of his arteries was blocked/blood clot?

Right now, take your mind away from it as far as possible. Not having control and no sure answers right now will drive you insane otherwise. Probably why i memorized so many meaningless sports stats over the years!

 

Hope you feel better. These four words seem to help me when I'm overwhelmed: Stop. Breathe. Reflect. Choose. I'm a physician and I learned them in a stress management course. I use them to help patients in rough patches, as well as anytime they feel stress. Hope they can help you get through these rough times. Hope you can find solace, or a distraction, in your fish. Talk to them if you want. It's helpful to talk things out! Please also look for help lines. There are several where you can just chat to someone just to hear a human voice. Even though fish are awesome, a human conversation does wonders, too. I would recommend a help line, but I don't want to violate the rules of the forum.

 

Hope you feel better. These four words seem to help me when I'm overwhelmed: Stop. Breathe. Reflect. Choose. I'm a physician and I learned them in a stress management course. I use them to help patients in rough patches, as well as anytime they feel stress. Hope they can help you get through these rough times. Hope you can find solace, or a distraction, in your fish. Talk to them if you want. It's helpful to talk things out! Please also look for help lines. There are several where you can just chat to someone just to hear a human voice. Even though fish are awesome, a human conversation does wonders, too. I would recommend a help line, but I don't want to violate the rules of the forum.

Hope you are doing well today! Sending you and your fam love.

 

Hope you are doing well today! Sending you and your fam love.

Thanks, it's still been a nightmare. Family friend of ours passed away with cancer yesterday, it was heart breaking hearing her kids on the phone, one is the same age as I, and the rest aren't even 17 yet. They told us she was doing better, next day she was gone. So that doesn't help.

My dad too, he still is relying on a vent/mask to breathe, I think he's slightly breathing on his own, but not 100%, so I don't know if it's a good or bad sign, but still trying to remain calm, my sister on the other hand, too much anxiety.

It's been so tough, thank you, btw.

 

Barely know anyone here, but I send prayers to your dad and your family Bleu! Hope you and your siblings are feeling better and that your dad makes it through!

 

This year, and last year has been an absolute nightmare. Now I might lose my dad. | General Discussion Forum | 500319

hold on to your loved ones, give them a big hug, and keep them close, especially your parents. I quickly lost my dad when a week ago, he was talking, I didn’t even get to say goodbye.

getting older is the worst because so do our loved ones/parents... I think that’s the toughest... running out of time

I don’t make sense but I’m broken

 

Bleu, I'm so sorry
We hope it helps you to know your FL family cares and holds you in our hearts at this trying time.

 

Many hugs. Losing a parent is the worst. Almost 6 years later, i can't say i have recovered from it, i just deal with it better. Still a GIANT hole there. My mom says the same thing about her dad, and thats been 24 years. In time you will find coping mechanisms, hopefully healthy ones. But do take time to grieve. That is important.

 

I'm so sorry to read your sad news. I send you a gentle hug.

It's important to take all the time you need to grieve, but also important to think of the good times you shared. Try to be someone he would be proud of, remember the love and caring and laughter. I lost my beloved dad a great many years ago and still think of him most days -- those memories keep him alive in my thoughts and I still feel the love now as much as back then.

Take care and don't be shy about reaching out to others for help or comfort.

 

So sorry!!

 

Sorry to hear what you're facing Blue

 

This year, and last year has been an absolute nightmare. Now I might lose my dad. | General Discussion Forum | 500319

hold on to your loved ones, give them a big hug, and keep them close, especially your parents. I quickly lost my dad when a week ago, he was talking, I didn’t even get to say goodbye.

getting older is the worst because so do our loved ones/parents... I think that’s the toughest... running out of time

I don’t make sense but I’m broken

Sorry for your loss Bleu.

This may seem impossible to you right now, but the time will come when your focus will be on the happy memories you, your dad and the rest of your family created.

Until that time comes, grieve the loss of your dad, stay close to your family and keep your chin up. I’m a firm believer that your dad will always be with you.

 

Sorry to hear...
I know all about it, to loose a parent. I'll will light a candle tonight for you, your dad and your family...

 

I'm so sorry. Blessings as you both celebrate his life yet mourn his passing.