New To Anemone

Hello! New here to forum and saltwater aquariums. Me and my husband started out with just live sand for 2 weeks and then added live rock for 2 more weeks. Then got 2 clowns and an anemone. Added 5 snails, 4 hermits, and 2 other snail things and another anemone. About a month later, April 6, we added a tang and a chocolate chip starfish. I read up that this starfish is pretty hardy and cheap, perfect for beginners. Well Monday morning, I notice the starfish is lying flat and I see there's flesh coming off him. I already guessed bacterial infection..it had taken all 4 of his legs and he was dead. I removed him from tank very quickly. I noticed my brown anemone has had some slime on him, don't know if it's from the snails or what. So my question is can the bacterial infection spread to my anemones?

 

There are several factors here that I would be suspicious of before going with bacterial infection. One of the problems is that both the starfish and the 'nem generally require well established tanks (ie running for 6 months or more) to do well. The starfish requires very pristine water parameters as well and the 'nems generally require bright lighting, so unless you are using a powerful high end light it's not going to do well. Also what size is the tank?

 

So update: my husband overdosed the tank with calcium. Caused the bubble tip anemone to die .However, my other anemone (dont remember the name) completely loved it. Strange? I think so. He's spread out and perked up like a mushroom.
The calcium was WAY to high (540)for our other sea lives so we just did a 30% water change to lower calcium levels. If he gets droopy and sad again, I don't know what to tell him! He can't be the only child!
We want coral so leaving ca levels around 480, hoping he will still be pleased! He's very sensitive! My husband up the temp the other day to 78 and he closed up completely for half the day, while our bubble tip rejoiced. Lowered the temp back to 75, he came back out and happy while the bubble tip closed up cause it was too cold for him. There's just no in between? I know they are just sea creatures but I feel like that have some complicated personalities.

 

Welcome to saltwater. This is something that drives many of us nuts with inverts as they all have different individual requirements. Unfortunately in this situation you will likely have to pick one or the other.

 

Well had no other choice, calcium killed the bubble tip
So now it's the only nem right now. I eventually, want to get another, maybe the same one as him and hopefully they like the same climate! Smh