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________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Sounds to me like your friend may have deeper issues if he just wants them to die. There is no reason he can't rehome them or give them to the LFS or even just put them on craigslist, people will take free fish anytime. Your friend needs to get his act together.
Hey, Matt, I don't know if this is where you intended the conversation to go, but this is a really interesting subject
I think everyone would probably agree that if he's allowed to give the fish to a friend, you should accept the donation. Once they are yours, you are allowed to do with them as you wish, and that would include taking them to the LFS.
Personally, I find this to be a little bit deceptive, and I hate to see us as a forum encouraging kids to not be honest with their parents, as we sort of are with your friend. I think another option may be for your friend to ask his parents why it is okay to give them to a friend but not a LFS. I have a feeling it is either because 1) they don't want to feel like they wasted money or 2) your friend is immature and impulsive, and they are using this as an opportunity to force him to be responsible for pets he chose to buy.
So perhaps if the parents knew that he's not taking care of his animals, they'd reconsider their stance. I don't know, just a thought.
I agree with Treefork and Meenu. I think that there are underlying and deeper issues here with your friend and his parents. Matt, it depends on how involved you want to get. You may want to enlist the help of your parents. If your parents and his parents are friends they could ask his parents a few questions to get to the bottom of the whole thing. It is hard to call the shots when you don't know the WHOLE story!! There are pieces to the puzzle missing here and issues as Treefork mentioned.
But let me say this............ I am glad I am not an animal being taken care of by your friend. You stated that he is one of your many fishkeeping friends. Those fish should be able to be relocated to someone elses aquarium. Another friend or either the LFS. There are other roads to go down besides the route your friend is taking. His choice for this road is questionable. I think that the end destination all of us would hope for is that the fish be relocated. Why not be up front and say that you will take them and that you are going to take them to the LFS, or, you can hopefully find another one of your friends to take them. It sounds like this kid doesn't care what happens to the fish, so you can step in and relocate them for him. I think being up front with his parents about what your intentions are would be fine. Just be kind and helpful. But there is also the fact that you can not help some one else unless they WANT or realize they need help.