Ignore someone ?

Post count= message count = thread count. What ever you want to call it. Then the ones on the fun or game threads don't count.

On this thought I wonder if anyone is ignoring me.

Thanks! I thought "messages" was a PM count, haha

Would you WANT to know if some rando is ignoring you?

 

This will be my last post for a while at least . I can reached through PMs as it generates no revenue for this site unless ,well you know I can't receive PMs after this post .
The boy is symptom .
The thoughtless greed and lack of care by the staff here is the problem. If I got paid for every post he made I would not slow him down either maybe ? Well I would but I can easily see how others have fallen .
It's about integrity to me and some have it and apparently some do not as I see it ..It is never too late for any of us to learn or turn over a new leaf though myself included .
I got PMs almost daily from other members asking why nothing is done when they themselves have brought this problem to the staffs attention .
I have no answer but to say I am frustrated also ..I can not fix or even do anything more then I have . I put myself out here as the bad guy for no real good reason according to some ? I did and do not see any other options other then just let it go which I feel is wrong IMO.

I appreciate all the kind words [I don't need a hug ] ,but would love if everyone thought about what they post and maybe even read the Original Posters post before responding to a thread .There are a lot of other people here who seem to ask questions answered in the first post of many threads [this thread even ] ..How can responding to a thread you did not read help ? If you are here to brag or whatever make your own thread ,if your here to help others read their post and carefully consider if you have any valuable input .It is nice to want to help ,I enjoy it more then some could ever believe but wrong info and sidetracking others thread does not help the member ,this forum or the hobby IMO..
I know when I think my advice might put someones fish at risk or their interest in the hobby to be lost I don't respond or caveat my concern ...It really is not that hard .
But following post that have nothing but pure opinion that is not fact disguised as information is not something I plan on competing with . It is a no win IMO.
I will miss trying to help many new members who now will never find me or that I will get to meet ,but hope some of you are not afraid to PM if you think I can be of any help . I feel the worst for my ram brothers and sisters as those poor fish need more help then this forum does and more then this forum will ever be able to offer again .There are real losers in this unfortunately but it can be fixed ..Unfortunately I will never know if it is or not now though . Please be nice and think of others here and in your daily lives..We all need to band together and find common ground not differences .

Tom
P.S.
For everyone who hopes it is not them re read the first post .If you have been here longer then 2 1/2 months and are not a HIM with 3,000+ post, you just need to focus on the last part of this post as I have tried to explain how responding to something you did not even read is a waste .The member knows who they are as several have told me so if you are still wondering it is not you !
And again he really is not the problem but more a symptom ..The staff here are the problem IMO ,they don't do their job .
With this I am sure to be banned or this post will be deleted so sorry everyone .
This post was not meant to beat anyone up although I feel real damage has unfortunately been done .I apologize for that .I guess I could have just left quietly but really did not want to but now feel no other choice then to limit my participation .
Please be nice to each other and most of all enjoy keeping fish and share the joy with others .

The boy is being called out by a ‘mature’ 55 year old man who believes that people won’t get the help “this forum will ever be able to offer again.” Presumably bc you are leaving. I need to be nice but I don’t want my children treated like this. Pls don’t tell us to band together when you are tearing a child apart. How do you think he feels right now? MissPanda I spoke to him on pm and he knows. How could he not? Do you think he feels good? Or do you think he wonders why adults—or anybody—would do this? I’m just wondering. Smh.

 

Calm down people! Jeeze. The train just went off the bridge.

 

Right but it was mentioning somebody passive aggressively. And yes the op can post what they want. But the lord of the flies gang mentality and comments about hoping people move on? ESP right now. We are all stuck inside the house. We should imho be banding together not tearing people apart. I see that wrong info is not good. But let’s see if we can pm that person and say pls stop tagging me. Look I don’t know anything hence why I’m on here. I don’t know the proper protocol. But I do know many people felt the need to reiterate and expand on the topic rather than saying this is how to ignore. Let’s come together guys. I don’t have answers. To anything. But we are facing and staring death in the face outside our doors. Pls don’t forget that and pls let’s show some love. That includes me who is now on a rampage. So I’m sorry. Time for me to practice what I preach.

I feel bad for whoever it is. They might read this and feel unwelcome. I know I sure would.

 

I think this thread has now reached the end of its useful service life.

 

Same, and I’m a newbie I have ADD and my train of thought derails so easily

I derail even in real life conversations. My stories story turns into another story until I forgot what I was originally talking about haha

 

FYI this member is 12 years old.

Age is errelevent. A forum such as this is the same as in school. If you don't know the answer don't answer the question. I feel I'm quite knowledgeable in this hobby but I know my limitations. Some times even my answers are a farther question to see othere opinion on the solution since they may have a better suggestion.

 

Age is errelevent. A forum such as this is the same as in school. If you don't know the answer don't answer the question. I feel I'm quite knowledgeable in this hobby but I know my limitations. Some times even my answers are a farther question to see othere opinion on the solution since they may have a better suggestion.

No it’s not. A young child will be seriously upset when a “mature” 55 year old man calls them our. Would you want your child to be treated that way? Though I do agree with you. I hope you see I edited this david1978 bc you’re right. If you don’t know then ask. But I think that while age is irrelevant, it was mentioned bc the op is a mature 55 year old man who kept using the term boy AND bc this is a CHILD.

 

Someone making posts and trying to communicate isn't breaking the rules. What do you expect of the staff? Remove someone for trying to be friendly?

No disrespect, but that's a bit unrealistic.

You don't have to leave or stop helping people. You don't need to leave if you don't really want to. People do want you here. It's best for you to ignore someone and best for them for you to ignore them. People aren't going to agree on everything.

It's unfair to blame the staff and to call someone a symptom as if theyre a disease. I know ive been on the receiving end of some of your bad moods. This isn't so black and white. I know exactly who this thread is about and a lot of what's being said is totally uncalled for.

That person is bright, enthusiastic, smart, and has a whole lot of passion for this hobby, even if they have a lot more to learn. That's not a problem, to have more to learn. But snapping at them because they stated something in a way you dislike is a problem.

I tried being nice and keeping neutral. But this is so very wrong. The other end of this is quite hurt over this whole thread. Many of the opinions here have been seen and are very unwelcome to many people.

Sorry not all of us are born experts, sorry we aren't all oppressed into only saying the same advice and experiences. Sorry there can only be one right way.

But I refuse to stand here and let a bright individual be ruined by a pack of sour grapes.

 

Age is errelevent. A forum such as this is the same as in school. If you don't know the answer don't answer the question. I feel I'm quite knowledgeable in this hobby but I know my limitations. Some times even my answers are a farther question to see othere opinion on the solution since they may have a better suggestion.

Y'all would have ripped me a new one if I was on here at 12. That was my 'put bettas in 2L coke bottles cut in half' phase.

At the same time though you need to keep in mind they are just a kid. Their brain isn't even close to being fully developed. We can correct people respectfully and leave it at that. It doesn't need to be a big debate or argument. Kindness goes a long way.

 

Someone making posts and trying to communicate isn't breaking the rules. What do you expect of the staff? Remove someone for trying to be friendly?

No disrespect, but that's a bit unrealistic.

You don't have to leave or stop helping people. You don't need to leave if you don't really want to. People do want you here. It's best for you to ignore someone and best for them for you to ignore them. People aren't going to agree on everything.

It's unfair to blame the staff and to call someone a symptom as if theyre a disease. I know ive been on the receiving end of some of your bad moods. This isn't so black and white. I know exactly who this thread is about and a lot of what's being said is totally uncalled for.

That person is bright, enthusiastic, smart, and has a whole lot of passion for this hobby, even if they have a lot more to learn. That's not a problem, to have more to learn. But snapping at them because they stated something in a way you dislike is a problem.

I tried being nice and keeping neutral. But this is so very wrong. The other end of this is quite hurt over this whole thread. Many of the opinions here have been seen and are very unwelcome to many people.

Sorry not all of us are born experts, sorry we aren't all oppressed into only saying the same advice and experiences. Sorry there can only be one right way.

But I refuse to stand here and let a bright individual be ruined by a pack of sour grapes.

I
Love
You. Your post^ made me cry. Thank you.

 

I don't disagree with the idea that communication/friendliness is an offense but that's not the problem, CB has clearly said that the person is sharing bad info, which frankly I have found true. I have tried to correct info said by the person in mind yet they tend to stick to their ideals, and the problem is that giving bad info while trying to be friendly is not the best idea because it could mean life or death for someones fish.

So I think it would be a good idea for this thread to be closed, it has gone in circles few too many times.

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Someone making posts and trying to communicate isn't breaking the rules. What do you expect of the staff? Remove someone for trying to be friendly?

No disrespect, but that's a bit unrealistic.

You don't have to leave or stop helping people. You don't need to leave if you don't really want to. People do want you here. It's best for you to ignore someone and best for them for you to ignore them. People aren't going to agree on everything.

It's unfair to blame the staff and to call someone a symptom as if theyre a disease. I know ive been on the receiving end of some of your bad moods. This isn't so black and white. I know exactly who this thread is about and a lot of what's being said is totally uncalled for.

That person is bright, enthusiastic, smart, and has a whole lot of passion for this hobby, even if they have a lot more to learn. That's not a problem, to have more to learn. But snapping at them because they stated something in a way you dislike is a problem.

I tried being nice and keeping neutral. But this is so very wrong. The other end of this is quite hurt over this whole thread. Many of the opinions here have been seen and are very unwelcome to many people.

Sorry not all of us are born experts, sorry we aren't all oppressed into only saying the same advice and experiences. Sorry there can only be one right way.

But I refuse to stand here and let a bright individual be ruined by a pack of sour grapes.

Calm down people! Jeeze. The train just went off the bridge.

true story lol

I don't disagree with the idea that communication/friendliness is an offense but that's not the problem, CB has clearly said that the person is sharing bad info, which frankly I have found true. I have tried to correct info said by the person in mind yet they tend to stick to their ideals, and the problem is that giving bad info while trying to be friendly is not the best idea because it could mean life or death for someones fish.

So I think it would be a good idea for this thread to be closed, it has gone in circles few too many times.

Edit-

I see your point about bad info
I am not referencing anybody tho. What I can say is this should have been handled privately. That is all.

 

I derail even in real life conversations. My stories story turns into another story until I forgot what I was originally talking about haha

I’m pregnant on top of it all there is no saving my conversations. I don’t even get halfway through one before completely forgetting what I was talking about.

 

And again he really is not the problem but more a symptom ..The staff here are the problem IMO ,they don't do their job .
With this I am sure to be banned or this post will be deleted so sorry everyone .

Ah, it's always so nice to be appreciated.

Just remember, being annoying is not grounds for banning someone. Everyone here is annoying to someone somewhere. At FishLore we are a community and all are welcome. We strive here to make everyone feel comfortable and safe. We don't belittle people who are less knowledgeable. If someone gives bad info, that person should be politely corrected, or just post your answer and pretend the other person didn't post a conflicting answer. We don't want to be one of those elitist forums.

At FishLore we only have 12 rules and most have to do with not using foul language and not being rude to others.

 

The thoughtless greed and lack of care by the staff here is the problem. If I got paid for every post he made I would not slow him down either maybe ? Well I would but I can easily see how others have fallen .
It's about integrity to me and some have it and apparently some do not as I see it ..It is never too late for any of us to learn or turn over a new leaf though myself included .

And again he really is not the problem but more a symptom ..The staff here are the problem IMO ,they don't do their job .

Thank you Tom for your support (sarcasm) for the work the mod team does, you have no idea what we do behind the scenes, as unlike some we do not bring it to the boards to shame people.
We do this for free we are not paid & we often are bear the brunt of people’s insults, if bad language was allowed I’d quote some of the abuse we often get when asking people to abide by the few simple rules we have.
If we banned everyone that gave outdated/incorrect/unresearched advice or posted ‘too much’ then we would have very few members. We all have to start somewhere or have you forgotten you were a newbie once? it’s the more experienced members who’s invaluable advice helps new fish keepers to be better fishkeepers & the more we correct wrong advice the more the message will get through, isn’t that’s why we’re all here, to help?
I know the current situation is making people more tetchy than usual so I will stop now & take a deep breath & end by saying if you don’t want to read a members posts then put them on ignore.

**Thread closed**

 

I think this thread has run it's course.

coralbandit thanks for the dig at the moderators who are here voluntarily and help keep the forum safe for everyone. Our mods do an awesome and thankless job in my opinion and do a lot of things regular members have no clue about which is how it should be.

The ignore feature was made for what has been described in this thread and I explained how to use it earlier in this thread.

Closing this thread.

Edit: ninja'ed by coradee.