How To Convince Parent To Let Me Put A Tank In My Room. Help

Discussion in 'More Freshwater Aquarium Topics' started by Elijah K, Feb 13, 2019.

  1. Elijah K

    Elijah KValued MemberMember

    I'm not really sure where this thread should be. But anyways I'm 13 and I have a 125-gallon tank in one of my living rooms downstairs. I asked my dad if I could have a tank in my room but said I already have a tank, but I want my own personal one in my room for my desk. I already have an empty 3.5 gallon in my basement with gravel, a filter, and a heater already it just needs to be set up, but he says no, (Why? I'm not sure). Plus I want a betta and i can't have a betta in my 125 gallon because its fins might get bitten.
  2. Fanatic

    FanaticFishlore VIPMember

    My parents wouldn't let me have a tank in my room for a long time due to the fact that we have carpet, and any spills could do some damage that they didn't want to have to deal with.

    I eventually was surprised with my very own tank upstairs in my room, and I didn't spill any water on the floor until I got my ten gallon which leaked, and then they were a bit upset.
    So, I completely understand why they may not want a tank upstairs, it may be for many various other reasons that I don't know of. It's your job to ask him why he doesn't want tanks upstairs.
  3. Smalltownfishfriend

    SmalltownfishfriendWell Known MemberMember

    Buddy if you have a 125 gallon tank in the living room, you are better off than 95 percent other 13 year old fish keepers!!lol ;)
  4. OP
    Elijah K

    Elijah KValued MemberMember

    I have wood in my room but i guess water could get into the wood and damage wood too.
    I agree but i would like a betta, and i dont want to put one in my 125 gallon because i have some aggressive fish and fin biters. But ive had like 4 bettas in the past so its not like i never had a betta before.
  5. Nart

    NartWell Known MemberMember

    tell 'em InappropriateReefer and MightyNanoTank did it... it might work ;)
  6. leftswerve

    leftswerveWell Known MemberMember

    Who does 100% of the maintenance on the 125g ?
  7. Addie42

    Addie42Well Known MemberMember

    here's my spoiled brat train of thought
    its only 13.5 L. Thats like, having 7 2L nalgenes in your room, no biggie!!!
    (saying this might make ur parents more mad hahaha)

    here's my more reasonable (but probably still somewhat flawed since I'm not that much older than you) train of thought
    just promise them you'll take perfect care of it. If the water volume isn't the only argument they have and they don't think you are responsible enough to take care of it, or they think it's too small for a betta or whatever, just back off.
    Learning to back off on things and then bring them up subtly later is a good way of showing your parents a) you care about their opinion b) you are mature enough to have a tank ;)

    this being said, I'm glad I didn't have my own tank at 13. I probably would have messed it up - not that you will
  8. LowieTheLoach

    LowieTheLoachValued MemberMember

    Speaking from a parent's perspective, there could be a hundred reasons why they said no. I would suggest asking why they are against it and then not bringing it back up. At least not for a while. Go out of your way to be extra responsible and prove that you can handle another tank. Things like keeping grades up and doing chores without being asked go a long way when my kids are trying to change my mind.
  9. Galathiel

    GalathielWell Known MemberMember

    Going to them and asking for an explanation and if there is anything you can do to make it happen is better than trying to 'trick' them into doing it. Try bargaining - "If I am responsible for "xxxx" , could I get a betta in a couple of months?" Maybe if you look into seamless tanks (like acrylic) that are less prone to leaking and price that out, maybe that would help if the concern is leaking.
  10. OP
    Elijah K

    Elijah KValued MemberMember

    The tank is acrylic.

    I do like 25% of maintenance my dad does the rest.
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  11. blue velvet keeper

    blue velvet keeperWell Known MemberMember

    i would do more maintnence to prove you are worthy for a new tank
  12. BaseballMom

    BaseballMomValued MemberMember

    And here I am trying to figure out how I can afford a 2nd tank setup that my 15 year old wants in his room LOL
  13. bizaliz3

    bizaliz3Fishlore LegendMember

    And here I am putting 2 of my OWN tanks in my 16 year olds room. Lol

    I ran out of tank space and outlets in the rest of the


    good luck! I hope you can convince them!
  14. OP
    Elijah K

    Elijah KValued MemberMember

    its a 3 gallon tank and we already bought it so might as well set it up
  15. bizaliz3

    bizaliz3Fishlore LegendMember

    You can't really have a disaster with a 3 gallon tank. I don't see any reason why your parents should be against it.

    Why did they buy it if they are against it? Were they planning to have it put somewhere other than your room?
  16. Bettaish

    BettaishValued MemberMember

    Honestly, if you have an 125 gallon you're better off than most teenage fish keepers. Doing the majority of the work on your 125 gallon will help convince your parents you're ready for a new one. Always want to make sure you can take care of the tacks you have before getting more.
  17. Coptapia

    CoptapiaWell Known MemberMember

    My parents were like that. Something to do with homework and sleep being ‘more important than fish’ or something crazy like that. I never did get one in my bedroom.

    What are their actual reasons? (apologies if you’ve already said)

    This is becoming quite a responsible thread, and shows that it’s important to you. Maybe show them this thread at some point?
  18. Kathryn Crook

    Kathryn CrookWell Known MemberMember

    I had to ask for a horse for two years. Keep asking. They are testing whether you are serious or just a fad you will outgrow once you get to high school. Been there, done that, and I have kids older then you now and still going theough that. Good luck!
  19. GuppyGuy007

    GuppyGuy007Well Known MemberMember

    If you are going go show them this thread, i have a combined 75 Gallons of water in my rooms spread across 5 tanks. I have only spilled water a few times, and I just dabbed it up with a towel. I have a total of 105Gallons of tanks over 6 tanks. I would love to have a 125 gallon
  20. ryanr

    ryanrModeratorModerator Member

    I went through a similar situation when I first started.

    To me, it's not about convincing parents to "allow you". It's more about understanding your parents' reasoning behind not wanting the tank in your room.

    So, try and ask them what their concerns are, and then see if there are ways to mitigate/alleviate the concerns.

    In life, there will be many things that don't make sense to children (by that, I mean off-spring of any age), but as life goes on, you (as the child) start to understand the reasons, and sometimes, you even experience the same challenges.

    So hang in there, work with your parents in establishing and understanding the concerns. Then see if you can work out a compromise.