Do People Make Fun Of You For Trying To Give Your Betta Optimal Care?

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So here's the story, I’ve had my betta (nixie) for about 3 weeks now. The tank came from someone in my office who bought a larger tank after her old betta died (he was about 3 years old) I had wanted a betta for a while so when she gave me the tank I jumped at the chance to start a betta tank in my office. So I bought the betta and a moss ball, water conditioner and food then I started researching...and I realized all I was lacking. Got a heater (which I’ve been trying to find one I like I’m on my 3rd right now) and a external temp gauge with a auto shut off, modified the stock undergravel filter to work better with a charcoal uplift filter...when I got my test kit and realized I had a ammonia issue I immediately started doing water changes with schem prime and got it corrected. My betta is doing great, she is happy lively and active and I’m proud of the care I’ve given her.


My coworker’s kind of make fun of me for it though. I have an obsessive personality so I research everything and make sure things are perfect, while our other betta owning coworker does nothing to her betta except feed him and change the water when its cloudy, everyone makes fun of me because I am spending a lot of time and effort to take care of mine.

I just am kind of annoyed by this and wanted to vent, and was curious if anyone else has had family, friends or coworker’s give you **** because you have tried to take extra care with what many people consider a "throw away" pet. To be fair, I got the same treatment from people who didn’t understand when I used to keep hermit crabs.


Anyone else have similar stories? Come vent with me.
 

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Well my mom always tells me SEE look how happy my betta is on the counter in a 2 gallon tank with no heater or filter or light. I got fed up 4months later and took my empty 5 gallon and put him in it. He changed colors and made a bubble nest to show how happy he was. BOOM SEE MOM HE HATES YOUR tANK
 

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Im sure a lot of people think im wasting a 75 gallon tank by having bettas in it when i could have "bigger" or "better" fish in it.
 

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Yes I have some friends at uni who are nagging me about how I should just keep my betta and goldfish (plural) together in a bowl to save space. My betta is in a 7 gallon and goldfish are soon moving to a pond so I ain't downgrading them to a bowl.

Also after upgrading my goldfish from a 7 gallon to a 32 gallon, I soon found that 32 was not adequate. So now my parents have said that they look perfectly fine in their tank. They said that 5 inches is "freakishly large" for a goldfish!
 

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Yep, i get this not only with my aquatic pets, but as my hermies as well. Since its not a cat or a dog, many fail to see that these animals still deserve care as much as other pets.
 

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No, but even if people made fun of me, I wouldn’t care. Fish, well ALL animals, deserve to live the best life possible. It’s kind of sad that people consider fish a “throw away” pet. They’re living breathing things, just like us, and are actually intelligent! Certainly don’t let it upset you. Your little betta is healthy and happy, and that’s cause of you
 

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yep ive been made fun of for having my betta in a "big" tank with lots of plants and for spending money on him. because apparently its weird to spend money on fish and yet its normal to spend money on cats and dogs. although my mom doesnt make fun of me too much about it anymore. she has even started to appreciate how beautiful bettas are in general and has been tempted to get her own fish tank. so now whenever i go a fishstore with her we both look at bettas and point out our favourites lol. its now mostly people outside of my immediate family, friends of family and a few others who make fun of me
 

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Yes, but they do it about everything. People mock things they don't understand. I get made fun of for "spoiling" my cats, my horses, and my fish--but it's always by people who I can see don't understand how these creatures are truly designed to exist. I try to recreate that to the best of my ability with appropriate food, environments, enrichment, and whatever else, and hey, my critters are thriving, so people can laugh if they like. I'd rather that than feel guilty for trapping critters in inappropriate enclosures for my own enjoyment regardless of whether it's optimal.
 

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My parents give me **** because I’m
“obsessive” with taking care of my tank. With “expensive” food and two many water changes. I do weekly pwc. Also my dad believes that schooling fish in tanks are a lie and just so the stores make more money. He was very offended when I purchased schools of schooling fish. And hates bottom feeders because there boreing to him. (He barley sees the tank and I pay for it)
 

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Well, I don't deal with bettas much anymore, but I hear where you're coming from.

Luckily, my parents let me do whatever with my tanks, as long as I pay. They don't really understand what I'm doing, or why I'm doing it, but they usually know that there's a good, important reason behind it. As for people other than family, it's hit and miss. Some people find my tanks really cool, and others couldn't care less.
 

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Not really made fun of, but people at work always say that my bettas have 'cadillac tanks'. Whatever that is. I have three bettas and each has their own 5-6.6 gallon tank kept at 79 degrees with live plants. *shrug* I guess since my boss' husband keeps one in a half gallon bowl on his desk with a pineapple in it taking up even more space <a la Spongebob> it might seem like they are spoiled.
 

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Discus-Tang said:
Yes I have some friends at uni who are nagging me about how I should just keep my betta and goldfish (plural) together in a bowl to save space. My betta is in a 7 gallon and goldfish are soon moving to a pond so I ain't downgrading them to a bowl.

Also after upgrading my goldfish from a 7 gallon to a 32 gallon, I soon found that 32 was not adequate. So now my parents have said that they look perfectly fine in their tank. They said that 5 inches is "freakishly large" for a goldfish!
Prove to them that 5 inches is still considered small for goldfish. The common goldfish can reach 12 to 18 inches in proper pond conditions
 

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Well, not really but I do get some feedback from my parents.
My dad, well he's a bit more understanding of fish. My mom, well that's another story.

Here are some familiar statements, and responses.

Myself - "Mom, I really need to go to PetCo, when's a good time?
Mom - "Well, I have no idea, maybe when I go out again this week. What do you need now?"
Myself - "I need to buy more plants for my new betta tank, it's necessary."
Mom - "What! No, I am not buying another plant again, tired of the plants."

It's a constant battle between whether I may be able to get what I need, or not.
My mom has a tank, but I have to run it, see how that goes?

"Here! I have an idea, and it's free. Just go pull all the weeds out there and use those for plants!"
"...silence"

My hermit crabs have better tolerance with my mom, but my dad knows nothing about them, just that I will constantly need to buy something.
I don't have a job yet, but when I get one, I will start paying for my own things, and hit the road!
Sometimes I really wish my PetCo was across my driveway!
That'd be extremely helpful, right?

Soon I have to go out and get seven new betta girls for my sorority, and my mom better put up with that!
If some of them don't fit for the group, they'll be rehomed, a constant trip down there. Prepare yourself, mom! It's how it goes
Okay, well that feels great to explain!
 

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I've had people raise some eyebrows online when telling them how I keep my betta, but they usually shut up when I explain they actually live over 5 years in the right conditons and are smart enough to learn tricks.
 

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david1978 said:
Im sure a lot of people think im wasting a 75 gallon tank by having bettas in it when i could have "bigger" or "better" fish in it.
Only idiots! Bettas are lovely. Especially when you have several! I love your tank!

Discus-Tang said:
Yes I have some friends at uni who are nagging me about how I should just keep my betta and goldfish (plural) together in a bowl to save space. My betta is in a 7 gallon and goldfish are soon moving to a pond so I ain't downgrading them to a bowl.

Also after upgrading my goldfish from a 7 gallon to a 32 gallon, I soon found that 32 was not adequate. So now my parents have said that they look perfectly fine in their tank. They said that 5 inches is "freakishly large" for a goldfish!
What would they say to my 17-20” goldies? They love a pond

Everyone I know thinks my ponds and aquariums are a total waste of time and money. It’s worse since I got sick. BUT, I get my way cause I’m hardheaded like my mom and dad!
My feral cats (4) have access to a heated/air conditioned room 24/7. Clean water, fresh food. Folks think I’m crazy. Tough.
 

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Why does my comment have so many different icons on it? lol you guys are crazy. This is my 1000th Comment on fishlore!
 

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I got into bettas because I wanted a little "easy fish" in a bowl on my desk while I work...

But researched and realized all they need, and gradually added more and more until I have 4 established tanks that I don't even want to know the combined cost thereof. Lol.

My husband laughs a little- but he also finds it sweet. And the best bonus- I've never seen bettas as happy as mine. They've got so much personality and verve. None of the listless floating I see from the ones in vases.
 

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Hegrey said:
I got into bettas because I wanted a little "easy fish" in a bowl on my desk while I work...

But researched and realized all they need, and gradually added more and more until I have 4 established tanks that I don't even want to know the combined cost thereof. Lol.

My husband laughs a little- but he also finds it sweet. And the best bonus- I've never seen bettas as happy as mine. They've got so much personality and verve. None of the listless floating I see from the ones in vases.
Ive spent at least over $1800 on fish stuff.....
 

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CanadianFishFan said:
Ive spent at least over $1800 on fish stuff.....
Lol same I've spent so much money just on fish stuff. Between trying to find filters I like and supplies I have spent more then my parents like
 

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JamieXPXP said:
Lol same I've spent so much money just on fish stuff. Between trying to find filters I like and supplies I have spent more then my parents like
Im not aloud to get any more fish because some of them died and its too much money to spend even though its MY money. Bettas are so pricy nowadays Plus the quality of fish sucks, 2 out of 7 guppys from petsmart died in a month.
 
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