Do fish bond? Can they miss each other?

Discussion in 'Freshwater Beginners' started by Blanco, Apr 23, 2012.

  1. BlancoValued MemberMember

    I have two fish, Very unlikely mates Yet they seem to have a very strong bond.
    They always spend the day rubbing against each other & the smaller one more than the large seems to get emotionally down when they are spilt up?!?!?!

    Do fish feel/think this way?
    Do they make friends & miss each other & what if they are not fish to be known to be together & yet act this way?

    Before I tell you what kind of fish they are I want some input on the mental thinking of fish in this matter?

  2. JayseeFishlore LegendMember

    I have heard accounts of goldfish getting depressed when their friend died.

  3. Codyandme1Valued MemberMember

    I like to think they do, mabey because they don't have such a big school of friends and only have a few mabey they do recognize each other as friends, I believe they remember stuff longer than just 3 seconds ago :)
    Make sense? :p

  4. BlancoValued MemberMember

    Both my wife & son completely say yes these two fish love each other & don't want me to split them up.
    Even though I realize they an Odd Couple, it was only meant to be temporary that they were in the same tank & I added a bigger tank to my collection & watched for a bit & it was hard to argue how sad the smaller one seemed without the other & how much happier they both seemed when put back together in the bigger tank?
  5. AmazonPassionModeratorModerator Member

    The animal lover in me would yes that fish do bond. Just like my two dogs ;-)
  6. mmolitor87Well Known MemberMember

    I'd say so considering my JD manages to remember which objects in the tank he likes best no matter how much I move them around. He always remembers to harass the convict anytime he sees him in a place he doesn't like...which isn't just his territory. I haven't figured out the pattern yet because sometimes they will hang out just like friends. Following each other calmly, doing fishy things! They always remember where they feel safe and go running to those that do well in schools don't do well outside of them. Surely they must feel something when another fish they've been around a long time suddenly disappears?
  7. BlancoValued MemberMember

    I suppose that does make sense being they are naturally in schools & not loners?

    Well the Odd Couple I'm talking about is a Carp & an Albino Oscar.
    They are so close, is this normal for these type of fish?
  8. mmolitor87Well Known MemberMember

    I'm sure you know this, Oscars are really really curious fish. They get along with others as long as they're too big for the Oscar to eat and/or they respect the territory. When they're small they love to be in small's curious considering I've not seen many other cichlids act in that way.

    I imagine the carp is big enough that the Oscar might see him as a threat. I'd also imagine the carp doesn't have much sense of territory. Likely easier on them both if they just get along. I have no doubts an Oscar could kill a carp, but you might just have one with a good temperament. :)
  9. BlancoValued MemberMember

    My Carp is about 4 times the size if not more than the Oscar.
    I'll post a picture tomorrow.
  10. mmolitor87Well Known MemberMember

    That could definitely play a huge part in it! I have also heard of Oscars being sad/grumpy/depressed as an only fish. Other times I've heard of them killing off all their tank mates. I think it goes back a bit to disposition and in this case...definitely size.
  11. Codyandme1Valued MemberMember

    I remember seeing my guppies play a 'game' together, (don't doubt me yet :p),
    I have a filter that makes a strong current in one direction, they will swim up to the filter out of the current, next to where the water comes out, then suddenly they'll swim right into the current and let themselves get pushed to the other end of the tank, then they'll swim back and do it all again! Then they take turns, sometimes they will let some of the other fish have a turn!

    Lol, is it just me or are they actually 'playing'?!
    I like to think they are friends :)
  12. AquaristFishlore LegendMember

  13. SquirrelmanajhValued MemberMember

    coryandme-My platies do that too! Especially my 2 littler ones. It's really cute and fun to watch :)
  14. Codyandme1Valued MemberMember

    Wow, if that thread was still open I would have gone NUTS!!! (Animal lover here) :p

    Haha yeah i love to watch them enjoying themselves, Lol :)
  15. JayseeFishlore LegendMember

    Many solitary/aggressive fish school when they are young - it's a protective mechanism - as the fish grow they become more and more independent until they leave the group.
  16. NekoNew MemberMember

    I believe so. I used to have 2 goldfish and the white one would always follow around the orange one. The orange one eventually died...then the white one acted funny. He eventually died too:(
  17. divaninaWell Known MemberMember

    My platy plays this game of sorts too.

    1. Swim a few laps of the tank
    2. Swim straight up and down at the front left corner exactly twice
    3. Swim through the crocodile skull ornaments teeth
    4. Swim up and down exactly twice at the back left of the tank
    5. Ride the bubble stream over to the right side of the tank
    6. Repeat as desired.

    Also, I have another platy and a guppy in a quarantine tank right to her tank. Sometimes it looks like they're watching each other. But that's probably me projecting.

  18. soltarianknightFishlore VIPMember

    Id say it depends on the species and what you define as "miss". Ill be the first to say, Anthropomorphism is something we in the animal hobby do often, and its something that may cloud the better judgment of an animals well being for some. Such as the idea that baby oscar and a baby angle fish are best friends and they always hang out together and never will hurt each other because they are firends! Because truth is, that oscar grows up much faster then that angle and it becomes lunch.
  19. Codyandme1Valued MemberMember

    Hahaha lol, sounds like fun! XD
  20. JoannaBWell Known MemberMember

    One interesting thing I read about zebra danios that seems apropos to this thread on fish missing each other:
    "A unique quality of the Zebra Danio is that as they are quite loyal to their chosen mate. Mated pairs remain together for life, and rarely spawn with others, even if one mate dies."
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