Go with "reef substrate". It has shells, crushed coral, etc. The sand will blow around a bit at first, but it will eventually develop a layer of "algae", not a bad thing, that will keep it in place. For the first 2 months with my tank, sand blew everywhere leaving
bare bottom patches up front that looked terrible. Now, it barely moves, and looks great, if only a little dirty. I need to add more nassarius snails for that.
There are plenty of show tanks that are bare bottom. Just some advice, if you do decide that, paint the bottom black so you can't see through. It will eventually be covered in algae, but at first, it will look bad if not painted.
The only time I can think that you would have too much flow for sand is if you were doing an all
SPS tank using a large surge device or something. Otherwise, 20X turn-over flow per hour shouldn't be blowing your sand around. A Hydor Koralia Nano or a Maxi-Jet 900 should do great! If you are using a filter or some other device producing flow, you could go down to the Maxi-Jet 600 and be fine.