Angela_96

This whole week has been so hard. Since Steve moved out its killed me, at the same time a sigh of releif....

Its not that he is a bad person, or myself. He works his butt off to make sure we don't want for anything. He is also going to be at the hospital when Kendra is born, take care of the boys and me. We just cannot get along no matter what. Its a constant fight between us and its so unhealthy for us and especially the number 1's in our lives the kids.

How can you love someone so much and hate them so much at the same time?

This past couple days I moved all his stuff into the bedroom where he slept (he has always had his own "bedroom" since he snores like a bear) I have to wear ear plugs and take sleeping meds just to sleep in a hotel room with him.
He got off work tonight and decided to stay with his grandfather next door, right now we cannot afford for one of us to rent an apartment and pay the bills we already have so he has been staying with a co-worker. He went over to the house and found his stuff in that room, everything his paperwork for work, important stuff, clothes... Then he called me and asked why...

I am living right now two houses over from his mothers its hard enough to have to live there where he grew up, and feel like I am in the wrong place. Even though his dad has called me 5 times today about the kids, asking me about certain medicines (he has lung ca), his mom is constantly checking up on me and the boys. They are like my own parents even though this. Im planning on moving somewhere else after things get settled from the baby and I can return to work. If I have to live there then I want to be able to not have to look at his stuff, etc so it keeps me from getting upset. Its been hard enough when our 3 year old ask "when dad gets home...." he thinks dad is going to come home everynight and cook him a steak on the grill, fix his toys that I couldn't fix... it kills me! Then of coarse Wyatt our 7 year old does understand that mom and dad are apart but he misses his dad like crazy.

I don't know what to do, this is ripping me apart! We actually get along better away from each other just talking occasionally on the phone than we have 8 years ago.

Lucy

I'm sorry you're going through all this, I can't offer advice but I can give you a big

navyscuba

I understand what you are going through now. Me and my wife had some issues for like a year and it was to the point that I was going to move. We kinda looked at things from the point of view of the other and is kinda working out for us. Sorry to hear this. Good Luck.

joy1125

hug from me too. It's so difficult going through what you are, all the emotions, and those conflicting feelings of both sadness and relief. It can really drain you. But please be sure to take care of yourself, eat and get enough rest. You need to take extra care of yourself at this time. {{{{hug}}}}

It's very good that his family is being supportive of both you and the children, that will make things much better all the way around. I'm glad you have such kind inlaws.

hang in there honey. Take one day at a time. Things have a way of working out the way they are meant to be.

sirdarksol

That bites. Like everyone else, I can't offer any real help (heck, I can't even begin to comprehend what you're going through... just thinking about separating from my wife is horrible), other than emotional support.

It's good that things are going (relatively) well with the extended family. I know couples whose kids don't get to see one or both sets of grandparents either because of the grandparents or because of the parents, and that's just heartbreaking.

Angela_96

Thanks you all!
I am doing my best to take care of myself considering. I have to remind myself to eat right now with all the stress...
I know this will get easier over time, but I have made it almost a week now without loosing it. I miss having him at the house. I do have the company of 2 good looking gentlemen though to keep me busy and a little being in my belly to kick me and say "hey Im here with ya too mom!"
I wouldn't take the kids away from seeing their grandparents for 2 reasons they love them more than life and are good to me as well. Plus Steves dad prob doesn't have too much longer to live with his health and there is no way I would deprive him or the kids of that time together. I lived 4 hours away from my grandparents that were living and only got to see them 1 week every summer to see the way the kids interact with their grandparents now I just couldn't do that to them.
The same with their dad, hes a great dad and I have lived since I was 12 without mine I couldn't imagine them not having their dad. If I could just see my dad once a week for a minitue I would take it... So any time he is able to see them, he can.

Just because the parents are two idiots doesn't mean the kids need to suffer...

Tony G.

ugh im so sorry
like joy said, take care of yourself. Dont beat yourself up. Go out, take the kids out to see a movie, hang out with your girls. This kind of stuff will really help you get your mind of things. Dont worry, it'll be ok.
Were here for you

bolivianbaby

Angela,

Hang in there. I'm dealing with an ending relationship myself and his stuff is still here in my house. Moving all of his stuff into "his" bedroom was a great idea! It'll keep you from thinking about it and give your heart time to heal.

Just think about how good it is that you guys are getting along better not living in the same house, keep eating, get enough sleep, and enjoy having time with your boys.

You're a very strong person and you CAN get through this.

We're all here for you.

Angela_96

thanks.

MissMTS

OMG Angela I haven't been on the forum very much lately, and I had know idea you were going through all of this. I am so sorry honey, and I hope that things get better for you guys and the kid s. I can't offer much advise, having never been through anything like this myself, but I'm here if you need to talk or a shoulder to cry on. I am glad that you are finding comfort through your kids. Keep us posted. I'll be thinking of you.

Angela_96

Thanks...
It means a lot that there are people on here that do care!

I think things will get easier through time. I know one way or another it will get better.

Tony G.

its all for the best. on a side note, you changed your user name if you are thinking of taking your kids to the movies, i would take them to see ice age 3, its really good and you will have a fun time as well