They make
TDS meters and probes and stuff. TDS meter hooked to the
RO/DI system and as long as the output is 00, you don't have to mess with that. Go into a float switch in a container and your ro/di water will stay topped off. Run that to the tank top off and that will fill from the reserve tank, which will refill with new ro/di water.
A unit like the AquaController 3 or ReefKeeper 2 can be hooked up to probes that monitor temp and can turn on/off fans, chillers, lights, based on your settings. You can also monitor PH probes that will turn off things if the PH changes beyond a certain range (say if you're running a CA reactor or
kalkwasser stirrer). You can even hook up dosing pumps to dose trace elements, etc.
You can get as automatic as you want, but it'll cost ya.
Depending on what your engineering background is, you may be able to make some of these components as there are schematics available on the internet, but it may not be pretty.