It's a little unnerving that they would advise you to get anything without knowing your numbers. What are your Calcium, Carbonate Hardness, and
magnesium levels?
Calcium reactors are mainly used on tanks that have large amounts of
SPS and
LPS coral, who use calcium in constructing their skeletons. I have several LPS and SPS pieces, and my calcium rarely drops below 400 (I add a capful of Purple-up every other day). That said, you can get by with dosing the tank for the suplements you require until you have many many corals that require calcium.
For your stocking, I would remove 4 clownfish, leaving only the largest and the smallest one in the tank. Clownfish are all born male, but can turn female (they cannot turn back) and they will pair off. Removing all but the largest and smallest will give you the best chance of one male and one female. Also, even in large systems, they will find each other and they will fight once they've paired off.
How deep is your tank? If it's deeper than 20" you will need to move the clam up onto the rocks so it can receive sufficient PAR from the lights. Some species of clams prefer to live on the rocks, but I can't remember off the top of my head which do, so just make sure of your placement so he doesn't hop around.