Usually you need 1 male and 2 females. This seems to spread the aggression around a little. Also alot of plants to hide in when the aggression gets to be too much. A few dither fish swimming around at top water level lets them know alls right with the world. Usually a20G is a good size for a trio of Rams and dithers. They are also very sensitive to their water parameters so need absolutely clean water.
Kynen I removed your post in the welcome forum because it said the exact same thing as this one does. This way you will get all suggestions pertaining to this post in one place.
please feel free to stop in the welcome forum and introduce your self and tell us what tanks you have.
Carol
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