I'm guessign the q tank is pretty bare. That's probably why the tets are huddling together, because they feel exposed. The platy is probably pacing from boredom because there aren't any other platys for him to play with. I wouldn't worry about it-they should perk up once in the main tank.
No there's no such thing as a monogamous platy that I'm aware of. He'll still mate with the other females, but for some reason he just likes one of the girls better than the others. I've noticed the same wiht my male platy.
And no I think they can tell each other's sex perfectly fine. Males are just as likely to chase the females, either trying to make them mate or hoping they'll drop a few fry to eat.
