Tony G.

I cant go through this again. I am in pain... Im tired of this happening...

3 years ago we went to the US consulate to renew our visa like we did every year. Well, the officer denied it and banned my parents. She said my sister and i could go back if we wanted, so we had hope. Finally my parents decided for my sister and i to try again. So we made an appointment in the US embassy. I left my house today at 4 am and arrived there at 8. Everything seemed to be going really well.

Then, we got called up for the infamous "interview"... the Officer seemed really nice... She took our passports, our applications. Then she asked my mom for her visa. Our old visa's are still on our passport. They have this HUGE stamp that says "Canceled without prejudice" When the officer saw this, her eyes opened. She checked my and my sister's passport. They also had it. So she scanned it on the computer and our file came up.


She went on reading, and we could tell from her facial expressions that something was wrong. She then turned to us, with a face of pain. She said it wasnt possible. She started saying she was sorry. My sister and i cant get a visa, since my parent's need to have one for my sister and i to apply. Well, the first officer lied. She banned my parents for 5 years (when they were supposed to be 3!) and told my sister and i could apply.


Well to make it all quick we didnt get it. It was denied, again. I am so hurt. I am usually very strong, but i cant take it anymore. It just makes me angry, that there are thousands of illegal immigrants, and US who want to do things right, get punished and blamed, and ridiculed. I am in so much pain, i didnt want to go through this again, but i am and i have to be strong yet again.

I am sorry for writing this, as i dont know who else to go to. Because of what happened 3 years ago, my life was ruined, i am broke because of what happened, and....

I apologize. My psychologist says things get better when you write about them.

I hope you understand me, and help me go thorugh this painful moment of my life, yet again.

Jackie Frost

I am so sorry Tony. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. I don't know if you are a religous person or not, but you will be in my prayers. (If you're not religious just think about it as good thoughts sent your way.) Meanwhile maybe you should reward yourself some how. Do something kind for yourself to pick your spirits up.

Listening to your favorite music can help improve your mood. I know it sounds like a band-aid for a broken leg. But every little bit can help.

MeGustaUnaPez926

Oh Tony... I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I don't know anything about immigration. I feel so bad for you.

Lucy

Awww, Tony that really stinks.
I can't say I understand any of what's involved, but is it possible to go over her head and speak to a supervisor?

bolivianbaby

Tony, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Something will make sense about all of this soon.

You're in our thoughts, prayers, and hugs.

Red1313

Oh Tony
<hugs>

Tony G.

thanks guys. It is stated by law that we cannot question an officer's decision.

i will try and think of something to cheer me up.

Red1313

Plan a trip to Canada?
Wait a few weeks a we can have a snowball fight lol.

Tony G.

i was there in spring break... Going wouldn't be a problem... My dad has a work visa and we could go live there if we want... im going to see if i can get a visa and go in january
LOL

redlessi

Tony, so sorry to hear about this happening to you. Do you have something like legal aid that can help with immigration issues. Just remember that everything happens for a reason, find the positive in it and next time maybe it will happen for you.

Dont let it make you sad for long, hope you feel better.

Red1313

Oh there we go! January, you're a brave guy, crazy but brave. Who comes from Mexico to Canada in JANUARY!!!
I must say though if that's what you're planning it is mandatory for you to go out snowmobiling it's totally work the frost-bite lol

Tony G.

thanks reds... back when we lived in the states we had a lawyer that did everything for us, she is the one that caused all our problems

LOL
i was cold in the spring! imagine how cold it will be!




thanks guys, i really do feel alot better now


I talked to mom, we might go to the LFS to mend my broken heart.

Red1313

The sign of a true MTS suffer. For others it's choclate, candy, maybe some Bxxr... for us it's a fishy

lorabell

awwwwww Tony I am truly sorry...someone said b4 things happen for a reason...even though we dont see it right away....please keep your chin -up....and remember this also....the man upstairs never gives any of us more than we can handle...U R STRONG...and u will get past this.... we LOVE ya!!!!!

Tony G.

thanks lorabell. I tell him to make of me what he wants, after all, he knows how strong i am.

I should've said something to the first officer who denied us the first time...
"what goes around comes around"

whatever it is she wrote on my profile will never let me get a visa...



LOL red! I once saw in a movie that "Fish can even mend a broken heart... " LOL

lorabell

so just sneak in like everybody else!!!!! U can come here with us!!!!!

Tony G.

No. I am not like everybody else. I want to do things right, like i always have. I dont want to be one of them. I would love to go visit though

peacemaker92

Aw... I'm so sorry Tony. I wished I knew how you feel. Good thing you still can go to Canada and visit Red with open arms! LOL cheer up, dude, be strong! We're all gathered here for you

What movie is that? haha I wanna watch it too

aquarist48

Hang in there Tony!
Ken

Beth1965

Tony, Keep on writing, you never know if someone here can help. You never know who is who and who can help. I feel for you and wish I knew more to help you out.
I know I'll be thinking of you all day.

LauraJoe

Shawnie

chin up my friend! things happen for a reason and sometimes we just dont see the "reasons" but in time, you will....be strong and know that we are all thinking of you and your family!

iloveengl

I wish I knew some way to be of help. I'm really sorry Tony.

click

Sorry to hear about your problems Tony. And the idea of coming to Canada in January is not so bad, we only have around -35C (-31F)...you'll get used to it. I have friends here from South Africa who wear shorts till November, if they got used to the cold, you will to.

And remember, usually when a door closes on you, is just to make room for a bigger one to open.

Tony G.

Thanks everyone. I let it all out yesterday with mom. You see, last time it happened (3 years ago) i didnt let it out. I held it in, which made me change. People said i was beggining to be harsh all the time. I didnt even let it out untill i got hit the second time. That was it, it all came out and boy do i feel better. I took the day off from school today, these kinds of things arent forgotten by the next day.

Yesterday i was tearing while writing and reading what i wrote, but now i am not so i guess things are better.

That's why when i got home i came on FL right away, i knew i would feel better.


LOL@ click! I remember when i lived in the states, it would be winter and we would see all the elder men and women would come from oregon and all the northern states and they would be wearing shorts and sleeveless shirts LOL

when i went to quebec back in april, i was freezing! LOL we were barely like 10 degrees LOL

click

I'm glad you're feeling better. Keeping things inside is not good for the long term, they will get you at some point (I learned that the hard way). Keep your head up, good things can and will happen from now on.
lol @ ...we're sweating at 10 degrees.

Tony G.

i remember! My friends were like all sweating and wearing spaggetti straps and i was in a sweater and a huge jacket LOL

i have friends in canada, so if i go i can find a place to stay LOL and my dad's company pays for everything, so i can stay at a hotel if i want to LOL

eiginh

Man that stinks Tony, but I'm glad you feel better!

peacemaker92

Glad you're feeling better So touched by the above posters. As they said, and I believe in it too, if one door closes, surely it's for a reason. Stay strong pal!

Tony G.

thanks devon and pete. Im going to go collect some rocks for my new african tank, hopefully i find good rocks so i can start cleaning them LOL