steveangela1

He told me all weekend that he would be out of the woods tomm by the time that we could go to town to go out to eat, well I wanted to go fish shopping too.. Then today he mentioned he had to do this and that on that property where he hunts when he is done!! I am so po'd! I let him know it too before he went to bed! I also threw in the "well I will just get the kids together if carson is feeling up to it and go by ourselves" at least they will enjoy the fish store... I can also eat at olive garden instead of a steakhouse...

Thats fine, he wonders why I ignore him... its stuff like today that adds up! we rarely have time to do stuff together, and he makes these plans.. no I don't care if he goes turkey hunting in the morning.. but he did this morning too.. so I think one evening he does owe the family! Thats fine... it will be another week of when he comes home, oh yea we already ate, there wasn't anything left over, oh your clothes are in the dryer you need to get them out.. I go on husband strike for a week when he does this crap!
Not to mention putting his number on silent on my phone....
The kids already dread spending days w/ him from his "grouchyness" so he will straighten up... he goes through these cycles... when he gets through this one though it won't be a plesant family waiting.... I can be really bitter!
Especially after I bought him a 190 dollar out of state hunting license... all I got was a "thanks"...
Then after the no sleep last night because of sick kids I said I was tired he had the nerve to say "im tired too" from what? being in the woods sitting on his but w/ a turkey call? He keeps it up I will set him up on a hunting trip w/ Dick Chaney!

COBettaCouple

You need a new fishtank!

steveangela1

your a bad influence... I have been looking for another... trying to find reasons for another... lol.. prob will have another before the next 2 months are out (75-90g)

COBettaCouple

me? a bad influence?

steveangela1

Im just really tiffed because I haven't made my trips to the fish stores and I am really hurting... its like an addiction! I have a little list of stuff.. I want a larger size pleco... need to get rid of a cichlid...
SO I feel that my hobby shouldn't be ignored! So it wont I might drag my mil w/ me to knox tomm... she likes the fishy stores.. she needs a break from the norm.. I can teach her about picking out healthy fish, etc

COBettaCouple

Yea, even though we order most of our supplies online and get our fish at the aquarium club.. we still need that fish store fix every now & then. Get out, have some fun - you've earned it.

steveangela1

I just enjoy going and seeing all the tanks.. (pref the salt tanks) I want one bad.. money is the only reason I don't have one...
Its relaxing to see all the fish they have actually... I actually the last time I went by myself had a guy come on to me?? so strange! I had my wedding band on and everything, no kids w/ me though... made me feel good...


I guess its just getting out and looking for the perfect fish... I have 3 I am wanting right now.. and I will look and look until I find them..

COBettaCouple

Not all the sharks are in the tanks.

steveangela1

lol.. they actually have some beautiful setups w/ sulferfaced eels and puffers.. etc... large tanks!! Then they have the amazon tanks w/ loads of plants and discus in them.. so beautiful! just display tanks...

sirdarksol

This is a really glib answer, but it's about all that I can offer, other than "I feel for you."

Talk to him. Explain to him what is going on. It will hurt both of you (it always does when my wife or myself brings up something that the other is doing that is painful), but the pain will be short-lived (presuming both of you approach the conversation with an open mind).
This pain is far less than the long-term bitterness can be.
I also know that talking about the way the kids see a person can be effective. My parents used to never take me to my grandparents' house because grandpa was always angry with him. Grandma told him why we never came over, and he changed, just like that. He didn't realize the way he was seen by his grandchildren.

Anyway, good luck with whatever happens.

shortcut mary

When my husband acts like that, I always say" I almost have enough money to send for my 20 yr old Italian man that doesn't speak English". Also, my Italian man doesn't care that I can't cook very well and have a few lbs hanging around...lol
Also, he thinks he is the sweetest guy...then I started taping the jerk outbursts...Wow, that was a real awakening to him.
Hope everything works out for you.

Nags1965

Husbands are fickle creatures

Martinismommy

It sounds like you deserve a couple new fish to ease the pain What else can I say...Men, you just got to (well nevermind)

Don't feel too bad...My old man has been at Nascar since last Tues!

Nags1965

I really dont get that whole nascar thing. you have WAY to many people.. drinking WAY to much booze.. in WAY to hot of weather.. and all they do is watch cars go round and round and round a track.

I dont like people enough to put myself in that mess

Martinismommy

OMG!!!!!!! You just described him to a "T" If I didn't know better, I'd think you were looking into a crystal ball

I agree with you 100%....That's why I'm at home and not there

Lucy

Darn, wish he had taken my husband, I saw a sweet 55 gallon set up on Craig's List for a great price. I couldn't get it with him home.....but if it was here when he got home there would be less grumbling.

Nags1965

I like the way you think Lucy

luna