Lucy

steveangela1

I am about to replace him w/ a 90 gallon tank... I just got rid of the kids for the rest of the evening, my mil luckily wanted them for the evening. So I have no sounds in my house except for fish tanks! However, I can't leave the house I have a horrible miagrane and I have one of those auras w/ it and when I have those I will not try to drive.. I took my last imitrex last night... so I am out of luck today!....
The funny thing.. its sleeting right now so my husband will be running out of the woods.. when I hear him pull in the drive way I will run to the bedroom and lock the door to take a nice long nap... lol
Then soak in the tub for a while...
I really need to sit on this one for a bit because I will be very bitter towards him if I have to speak to him right now! So to keep from having a huge blow up.. I will just ignore him until I cool off... it may be a week.. but it will be better off...

Nags1965

I always tell my husband im gonna trade him in on 2 21 year olds if he dont behave

steveangela1

I couldn't keep up w/ 2 21 year olds unless they were willing to do yard work for me... lol

luna

susitna-flower

I'm going to have to remember that one!

Well, all I can say is it is better with them than without. Talk things out, treat yourself now and again, if he won't.

At the end of the day EVERYONE needs to feel special and without that, the reason to keep working on things is gone.

My husband is rather insensitive. However he has NEVER complained when I bring home a fish tank, even though he knows it is money down the drain...so to speak.

I think of his life, and it isn't a bed of roses either...work, sickness creeping in which will cut his life short (rheumatoid arthritis), every day he is faced with NOT doing the things in life that maybe he dreamed of, and he STILL has to go to work.....

Maybe I don't have it so bad, I think if we compare our lot in life with others, we can either get depressed (if we envy others), or be relieved we have it so good.

Personally I would be worried that Italian guy would keep me barefoot and pregnant! I'm too old for that!

Phishies Inn

+1

Nags1965

If only our husbands were as perfect as us wives..

Lucy

Wow, really sorry to hear that.

susitna-flower

Just trying to point out that even when we get frustrated, we have to keep it all in perspective. I am one that believes a husband is for life, even if they are a pain sometimes, and if we look at things through their eyes, sometimes we might see things differently.

My guy used to be the strongest, hardest worker, most nimble person you would ever see. Folks teased him because he was like a monkey climbing in trusses of a building going up 3 or 4 floors up! Now he has a hard time walking down a set of stairs, because his ankles hurt.....He has noticeably aged years in the last 6 months....some of the things that used to make me really ticked off, will not be a problem very many more years......and I guess I just want to let other people see that even the frustrations can be appreciated more if you look at life differently, and think of what it would be like without them.

Martinismommy

Very well said...I have been with Steve for 33 years and I have seen the good times and the bad...And oh my, how we do learn to let things slide as we grow older.....We have 5 grown children and 4 Grandkids 1 of which lives with us....

Life is short.....Take time for you....Nobody else will!

sirdarksol

Don't tell me this stuff. I'm often called "Monkey-Boy" because I'm so dang nimble.

Sorry about the migraine, angela. My wife gets them periodically, and I know how horrible they make her days go.

susitna-flower

Enjoy your youth, he is only 50!

steveangela1

Thanks, Everyone...

Yea the migraines have been an issue since I was a teenager, and they have been a real problem for the past 2 years 2-3 times monthly they can been really severe! This is the worst one I have had in a long time since the doc put me on a prevenitve med for them I will have a "breakthrough" once every 2-3 months now... this one just happened to be a really bad one... It was the ones where your eye sight and everything is affected... you feel like throwing up, and when you have small children you want to tie them to the ceiling fan.... (luckily I have a mil who wanted to take them this weekend, and felt bad because she saw me in the middle of the start of my miagrane yesterday)

I did talk it over w/ my husband.. and he can be insensitive sometimes, after the talk he drove 45 min into town to get me supper because I didn't feel like cooking.. and offered to take me out, but after the miagrane didn't feel like leaving the house. He is even talking about taking a vacation day next Sat so we can do something together... if possible...

I do have to say as much as I do get mad at him, this is a man that on his last set of paychecks worked 160 hours in 2 weeks... he has 2 jobs as a paramedic (keep in mind they do 24 hour shifts to though)... but all said what husband would do that and ask the wife to only work part time so that they can stay at home and be a full time parent? Only until our youngest gets into school.. One day I will be able to look back on this time and really appriciate the time I have had w/ my 2 kids as a full time mom, being the "taxi driver", diaper changer... etc.. So hes not in any means a bad egg... just has his "insensitive moments" that I really get ticked about!

For instance I will go months w/o getting to do anything like getting a haircut, going out to eat, going out to the movies, anything I like to do w/o a kid tagging a long... then he gets upset if he goes 2 weeks w/o doing something.... but he doesn't look at how long its been for me, unless I make a huge deal about it. I even found a hairdresser that can cut and style my hair in 30 min so I can take the kids along... she is a great hairdresser too... its just the point, taking the kids! I need me time, and I also need just me and husband time too.. I don't want to be married to someone for years on end and when the kids leave the house look at him and say "who are you?" we need to still have reg dates... and not when its convenently out of hunting season...

Sabi

Aww i'm so sorry! Wish everything straightens out for you!