Alessa

ok... the tank that WE have is both my bfs and mine. (he put the I put the brains ) and he started to recall that one day like almost three months ago when we were sitting in the sofa, hugging and watching the soccer game...

Him: " you know what?"
Me: "what?"
Him: "I want fishes"
Me: "Why?"
Him: "I want to come home and see something beautiful, something that makes me smile every time i come home tired of life... will you help me? you know I have no luck with research or following directions... can we do this together as our little project?"
me: "*smiles* sure baby, you know i'll always help you... but you know, having a pet is a huge responsibility..."
Him: "I know... but youre here to remind me "

we've been together two years and a half but, we dont live together yet, because I live right by my university. However, I am planning to moving in with him later, just not yet since we are so young (and live only a couple of blocks away from each other).... so our tank is currently in his appartment. I go there almost every day to check in with our fishies and when i cant go he updates me and tells me what they did that day, what he fed them, water parameters, and also if there is anything wrong... in which case i run to his appartment inmediately.

he called me tonight and the whole conversation turned into us getting hatchetfish and I was so excited telling him how cool they would be... suddenly he got quiet and then I asked:
"what's wrong?"
then he said: "I will never forget your first reaction when I said I wanted fishes... and now youre the biggest fish enthusiast I have ever met... you would do anything for the well being of those little fishies, spend nights researching, making sure they are are always ok... youre a really incredible girl, Im glad I found you"


the whole point is... i feel proud of myself now and I felt like sharing with the fishlore family.

Angela_96

lol i used to keep fish all the time on and off, my first being a lonley gold fish in one big lonely tank for years... as a kid.. then it grew to tetras, etc when my first child turned one and my mother bought him a tank.
Then my second had speech issues but was obsessed w/ fish, so I said I am going to get his bro's old tank out and get some guppies for him. He spent all day/night literally talking about the fish, he even said night night for the first time to anything or anyone to the fish! then at 3am he woke up because he wanted to "check on the fish"
That grew from his obsession, to well I wanted different fish, and the guppies had babies and I had then 3 tanks....
as that grew my husband got into it and mentioned getting a big tank for the living room... now we are up to 7 tanks... its a family obsession

when my hubby calls he always asks, so hows the fish? after hows the kids?

its good that you all share that hobby together! its good for your relationship, my husband and I enjoy looking for new fish, and tanks.. I do all the maintence due to being a stay at home mom working part time... but he usually sits down right in front of our 55g tank when he comes in from work and watches the fish.

MinxMermaid

yep, its definately an addictive hobby that bonds you. the fish are so innocent and so happy when all is well. so peaceful and happy to be just fed and cared for.

we have a nice balance about it, since no matter how many times he has tried to explain the nitrogen cycle to me, i don't get it. so he takes care of the science and biology part of it and of course the hard work of water changes. and i take care of the fun part, like picking and naming the fish.

i'm glad to see it holds a special place for others as well.

now where are we gonna put those next two tanks?

Alessa

Hahahhahaaaaa... so true! im thinking of a biorb with a betta (currently doing research on it) and a Salt water.

the funny thing is when I told my mom we were getting fishes, she was like: "did you know your dad and I did exactly the same thing at your same age?"

i guess it is a great hobby, but more enjoyable when you do it with your significant other...

Darlene

We have just started with fish a little over 2 ago months now. It started with just wanting to get a betta for my son, which changed to a 5 gallon at the store. Which a week later turned into a 20 gal. My hubby really wants a big tank to get a couple of oscars, but we don't have the money for it yet.

Ntruder1400

I'm surprised your answer wasn't something like "I don't feel like moving in with you just yet, but I can plan on being here when you get home"

Alessa

hahahaha.a.... well, i see him every day almost... so yeah I was gonna be there anyways