It took me forever to understand the cyling process and like you the more I read the more confused I became.
My answers tend to be lengthy, but I'll try not to confuse you further. Here's my basic explanination of what happens and what to do when cycling with fish in the tank:
First your ammonia (from fish waste and left over food) will rise.
In a few weeks you'll see the nitrite levels rise and the ammonia levels start to drop.
After a few more weeks you'll see the
nitrate levels rise and the nitrite levels drop.
Ammonia and nitrites are toxic to your fish.
So until your cycle is complete, you need to keep the levels down with daily water changes.
When you having readings of 0 on both ammonia and nitrites with some nitrates showing, your cycle is done.
The water contains little bacteria so changing it out will not effect the cycle in that regard.
However, it does contain ammonia the bacteria needs to develop, it's not free floating. It attaches it's self to the gravel, decorations and more importantly, the filter media.
Since the ammonia and nitrites in the water harms or can kill fish, we have to keep the level down.
That's why it takes longer to cycle with fish than without.
If there were no fish in the tank, we could just add a source of ammonia (fish food or pure ammonia) and leave nature to take it's course and cycle naturally.
I hope that helps.
