If there is some way you could get the well water before it goes through the softener that would definately help.
The softener replaces your ions in the water that would make the water hard, such as
calcium, with sodium, which is more water soluable which makes the water softer. That inturn increases the
salinity of the water while lowering the hardness. Salinity is the amount of dissolved salt in the water. Salt in your freshwater tanks aggitates scaled fish's flesh, increasing slime coat production (kinda like scabs cover cuts... so it would be like scratching yourself until your flesh scabs over.) The reason I explained slime coat usage is because some people swear that one must add salt to some freshwater tanks to increase slime coat production to prevent illness... that is like making yourself scab over to prevent infection..

Also as far as salinity goes for
freshwater fish: non-scaled fish such as plecostomus and corydoras will mimic a human's seasonal allergies. Pollen causes humans that have allergy problems to increase mucous production in our nose, salt does that to their entire body. It is an irritant, it isn't going to kill them directly, but will be very aggrivating.
All that being said:
The added salinity aggrivates the fish which inturn makes them more vulnerable to illness, parasite, and bacteria, which then with a weakened and sickened fish you get death as a possibility.
Hope the long-winded response makes sense.
