Hey there,
Mom here. Still making sure. This fish has been a stumper. The flash really bleached him/her out. He/she isn't that light. When the he/she colors it is not like the known male. She doesn't go blue but stays a muted, grayish with the stripes getting dark and pronounced. The pix looks like she /he is the same as the male but isn't. Also the fin coloring is darker, more muted. I thought females could have egg spots too. So...would the subdominant male act like a female? Circling, nudging egg spot,etc? The known male responds like he would to a female. He shimmies, lays on his side and circles.
Is there a sure fire way to tell? I mean other than the appearance of fry

. If I could catch him/her, would venting help?
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