Martinismommy

I had an emotion bomb dropped on me this past weekend...I've been praying it wouldn't happen but it did....My son Landon who is Annies Daddy was given a promotion and is moving to CA....This means my best friend and Granddaughter is leaving me

Anberlin has been with me since birth.....Her Mother was a flake that took off shortly after she was born...I have raised Annie from the day she came home from the hospital....My son works VERY long hours so she is with me 24/7...They both live with me right now.....

Landon will be moving to CA. the end of next month....He's actually going to start his new position on the 11th of August and Annie will be staying here with me until he finds a place....

This is going to be a major transition for me....Annie has called me Mom from the minute she started talking....I have treated her like my own child because she didn't have a Mother...I am so sad about this I can barely function right now....I feel as if a part of me is going to be missing..I guess I never thought this day would come but it has....

I'm not sure what we will be doing with Barney.....Landon is not an animal person like me and I'd be concerned about his survival if I sent him with them....I don't think Landon realizes what this is going to do to Annie to be without me and her fishy not to mention her Chihuahuas...

Thank you all for letting me vent...This is going to be a rough time for me for sure....Of course I posted this on the Betta board because I feel like this is my extended family.....

Now the answer to the obvious question....Yes he has a new girlfriend..She will be moving in with him and Annie....She is 28 and has no children of her own so this is going to be quite a challange for them...She is a career woman not a Mommy.....She is a Dental assistant......

OK I'm done....I'll keep you updated as things transpire..Just know that I am very sad right now so if I act up please forgive me

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Lucy

Oh, this must be heart breaking for you. I'm so sorry.
You know we're here for you.

Shawnie

im so there with you in spirit darlin!! such a tremendous woman you are...I was there last year and boy oh boy I so know what you are getting ready to face...its a new journey tho and even tho you dont see it now, its time to be grammy ...the upbringing you have given annie is amazing as most of us can tell from other posts and pics..landon is a lucky son to have a mom take on such a huge roll for him...we are all here if you need that shoulder or even if you just want to talk about anything...be proud of them both for even being able to stand on their own and take this HUGE step.....great job my fave lady in the shoe!!

Martinismommy

Thank you Shawnie and Lucy....Your support means the world to me right now....

seagullnz

for you.

Lily

seagullnz

This post is really making me sad, and even though I don't have any children let alone grandchildren my heart really goes out to you.

But you know, just as quickly as things "are done" they can often be "undone". Your son may decide that his/your little girl would be better off living permanently with you and maybe visiting him on a regular basis, like school holdiays etc.

Also once he is out there him and his new girlfriend might want some time to adjust to themselves, so don't worry too much yet.

The universe has a funny way of "righting" situations even if we can't see how at the time.

xxx

MinxMermaid

Oh Karen,
We're so sorry to hear of your shocking news, I'm sure your heart is aching. Maybe you and your son can work out some shared time, where she spends extended time with you. I'm sure he'll quickly see that she needs you in her life.

out of curiosity, who will take care of her when they're working?

what part of cali? If is near us, well we have a guest room and you can always come and visit her as often as you like. i know its not the same as caring for her every day, but you know we would love to see you on a regular basis.

i hope he educates himself right away on betta care and takes barney with them. losing her 'mommy', puppies and fishy is just too much for that darling little girl.


hang in there girl, we're here for you

welshalien

we're all here for you! You go ahead and vent about it all you want -- it's got to be almost impossibly hard. I don't have any grandchildren yet (not to mention any that I've raised as my own child) but if my son were to move away, I'd be devastated. Annie and Landon may or may not realize how lucky they are to have you in their lives but WE know! And we think you ROCK!

Kelly

Martinismommy

You guys are the best! It is so great to be able to share this with you all...Just talking about it makes me feel a little better...I know it will take time to adjust....And yes, who knows what may end up happening....Anything is possible....I'd love it if he would leave her here with me...I doubt this will happen though....

Jacqi....He will be putting Anberlin in Kindercare which is a pretty good preschool....She is a brillant 3 year old and is extremely advanced for her age....I'd put her on a 5 year olds level as far as academics......This is why it is so important to me that she continues to get the care and education I know she deserves...

Thanks again guys!

Darlene

I'm so sorry to hear that they both will be moving away. Although I don't know you as well as many members on here I can imagine what you are going through. I have three boys and I don't know what I would do without any of my them. Like everyone else has said vent all you want, we are here for you.

Martinismommy

Thank you Darlene...

Butterfly

Karen our thoughts and prayers are with you and will stay with you. Bless you for all you've done and been to that child and your son. No doubt this is going to be horribly hard for you and Anberlin.
But on a side note congratulate your self that you have raised such a loving grandchild but now a son who feels he's strong enough to take on his rightful job as stand alone father to his child. Kudos to you Girl!
Carol

Martinismommy

Thank you Carol....It is a bittersweet moment for sure...

shellbell4ever

Oh Karen... I so understand what your going through,When my grandson was born in 2003 he and his Mommy (my daughter)were living with me And Then when he was just about 2 my daughter tried making it on her own and they both left me...I was heart broken for quite a while Then she was having a hard time of it and he went to live with his daddy and she came back home but not with him were currently still fighting this situation and we get him every other week right now. I do hope something can be worked out for you and your grand Daughter,for both your sakes!!
Here's a big

Martinismommy

Thank you Shell.....I feel for you too! Custody battles are never fun!

chickadee

We already spoke through my e-mail but let me say that I am sure that your connection to her is not broken. Your connection to your son is not broken. They are moving away by some miles but he is not going to forget what you have been to his child and he loves his child or he would not consider taking her with him. Since he loves her he is also going to recognize her need to know her grandparents and while not every day is less than you would like, she will not be in a place to forget her Granny or Mommy. She adores you that is so plain in the pictures that are posted and miles do not change that.

100 years or so ago this may have meant a lifetime apart but today this is but a short hop from one place to another. She can come to visit and the visits will be all the more special for the fact that she will have some furry and finny friends to come to visit too.

Karen, I know your heart is breaking and we are here for you and will be here for you 24/7. We love you and through you we love her too. We are praying for you both and hoping that the Lord is with you both and helps you through the days ahead.

Rose

Martinismommy

Thank you so much Rose

jdhef

My heart breaks for you and your grand daughter. It is going to be difficult for both of you.

To try to put the most positive spin possible on a heart breaking situation, at least you got 3 wonerful years of being with her full time. Most grandmothers don't get to experiance that.

Also, is there any possibility that you could move out there also to be near them?

Best wishes
John