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March 4th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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Am I crazy???
My twin sister who lives on the opposite coast as I do wrote this on my wall in facebook.
"Janice they are fish. They barely have a brain little know their own personalities. Be like me and post more pics of your kids. PLS.
Jewels"
Does your families or friends act like this  I was really offended. I mean I had my mother in law here for two months and she loved the fish and talked to them and babies them and they got used to her.
My feelings are hurt. I don't understand whats so wrong with my wanting to share my interest with my friends on facebook. |
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March 4th, 2008
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Fish Keeper
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LOL....my friends all think I am a little wingy anyway, so probably not the best person to tell you that I believe you are fine!!! My sister and nieces also just think I am nuts, and my husband says I am a little eccentric...LOL again. Whatever makes you happy....
Some things I only say to people on this forum...because i know they "get it". Maybe we just have a stronger nurturing gene....when I watch my fish, I feel so serene and happy. They are fascinating anyway, but maybe those of us who go a little overboard are seeing greater things. Sometimes I find I have to stop myself from talking about my fish (or cats) cause the other person(s) just aren't interested.
But anyone who is interested, loves to read, watch, write and post; take photos; look at photos, listen...Just take her comments with a grain of salt ...and know that all of us who share your interest, understand fully.
Don't stop!!!! Val  |
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March 4th, 2008
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Fish Mentor
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Don't worry, my family makes fun of me too. You aren't crazy, you just have a hobby that most people don't understand. I agree with voicelesskat. I usually only talk about fish a lot to people on the forum because they actually understand. My husband is getting more patient with the fish talk thank goodness  Your fishies are lucky to have such a good mommy and don't let others who are ignorant get you down! You have our support! |
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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Ya, I just said replied " oh by the way, you look stupid as a blonde, you should dye your hair darker. Oh and when you start buying your books someplace other than the checkout line at the supermarket, we can sit down and have a conversation. So don't sit there and make comments when you intelligence is not on the same level as mine". Were identical twins. Were best friends but were also each others worst critics. Sad and silly i know, but I think this is the most hurtful thing she has ever said to me. So glad I have the forum and my fabulous fish friends.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Addict
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Dont feel bad (I would have let her have it as well) I talk to my fish all the time. My friends think im out of my mind ( and I might be. . . I think im addicted to caffiene). My grilfriend thinks its cute that i do love my fish as she is the one who got me the tank for christmas.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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my husband just told me I can get a 55 gal for cory cats. I'm like WOOOOOOOHOOOOOOO!
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Mentor
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Wow! He sure came a long way from being upset about two small bettas! Congrats! You can keep a lot more than just cories in a 55 gallon, though a whole tank of just cories would be pretty impressive.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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I'm not getting it for two years lol.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Master
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Yeah I know how you feel. When I try to show my family & friends cute fish pixs their eyes seem to glaze over with boredom. I really only have my boyfriend who shares the fish hobby with me. But he is the one who buys it all for me, lol.
At least I have we internet fish friends. |
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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Oof, yeah, rude!
"be like me"
I've tried pretty hard most of my life to NOT be like normal people.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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Thats so true! She knows this too. My twin and I are living in different worlds. She married into a very wealthy, religious family. She talks about God the way I talk about my fish. I don't complain, I just don't listen and when she stops talking i'm like " ya i hear ya". So I can't exspect her to understand . She's spent her who life trying to be like me. I have my own bookkeeping business, now shes taking classes so she can have her own bookkeeping business. I had a baby, ten months later she had a baby. I just don't get it, and what makes her so bitter.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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I'm a very sensitive, deep feeling person. When i'm passionate about something i'm passionate about it. I've never done anything half way before. We shall see.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Keeper
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To use an analogy your sister would understand, Jan...you're preaching to the choir!
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March 5th, 2008
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Quote:
Originally Posted by janoue
Ya, I just said replied " oh by the way, you look stupid as a blonde, you should dye your hair darker. Oh and when you start buying your books someplace other than the checkout line at the supermarket, we can sit down and have a conversation. So don't sit there and make comments when you intelligence is not on the same level as mine". Were identical twins. Were best friends but were also each others worst critics. Sad and silly i know, but I think this is the most hurtful thing she has ever said to me. So glad I have the forum and my fabulous fish friends.
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Oh my goodness.. Janoue, you posted that to your sister?  IMO that was a heck of a lot more rude than what she wrote to you. I guess in her own way she was telling you that she is jealous of your attention to the fish and not to her. BTW I have an identical twin sister myself.. and have had some roaring fights in our time as well.  Believe me, I understand!
Sometimes we forget to treat our family like we treat our friends ( and forum friends).. with respect and consideration. I sure hope the two of you will be able to resolve this.. before it really gets out of hand and you end up not talking to each other for awhile... ahem... that last bit is from experience and not criticizing you...
Just roll with it.. our families do not understand the love we feel for this hobby and most say we are 'obsessed' with it. Thats ok by me... I am .. what I am... haha.. 
 ~ kate |
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Helper
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Try explaining to your fairly old-fashioned mother that you do not intend to have children. that's a fun one.
Oh and add dirt bikes into the mix ... she's not a fan of those, either. Keeps trying to talk me into selling. So I can have babies of course.
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March 5th, 2008
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Fish Keeper
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I'm lucky with that one...both of my parents are from large families (dad is in the middle of 6, mom is the youngest of 12), so they only wanted ONE kid (me!), and they've never cared one way or the other if I ever gave them grandkids. My mom's perfectly content to just have a grandkitty (for now, I plan on having more furry/scaly "children").
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